The package comes with a pair of soft black satin panties with tie-up sides (meant for hips between 25 and 65 inches around) and a bullet vibe with a remote control.  The panties have a pouch inside the front too, so you can tuck the bullet inside and nestle it against your clit.

The bullet has a little plastic loop on the end, which is suspect means the manufacturers probably had the idea that some women might want to pop it inside their vagina; but the bullet is a little chunky, so I can’t imagine that would be very comfortable unless you’re using it strictly for masturbation. (NB: this toy would NOT be safe for anal insertion)

The remote has a pretty good range (the manufacturer says it has a 16 foot range), I tested it around corners and through walls and it still worked.  This is def something you and a partner could conceal and play with at a party – your partner should be able to give you a little buzz, even if you can’t see her/him (though it may not work if you are on different floors of a house).

The vibe comes with N batteries for both the bullet and the remote (yay for toys that come with batteries!) and the toy has multiple vibration settings and pulse programs.  The whole thing also comes in a black satin pouch, which you can use for storage.

What I liked:  I really liked the wireless remote control, it was convenient and very easy to use by myself, and is small enough to conceal in a pocket if you want to buzz someone else from across the room.  Even if you did drop it, I doubt anyone would recognize it as a remote control for a vibrating bullet (but don’t lose it!).  The bullet was as pretty powerful and the pulse programs are a lot of fun.  The panties are also very comfortable and the pouch inside put the bullet in a perfect position for me.

What I didn’t like: no real complaints, though I do feel like the bullet is a little big and might show if you used it under tight pants.

This toy would be great for:  couples who get off on sneakily getting each other off in public places – heck, if you’re single, you could even pick someone cute at a party to hand off the remote to or recruit a friend to pick someone at random who you then have to locate as they buzz your panties with the remote control.  This toy is also plenty of fun to play with alone, the wireless controller means that you don’t have to worry about it getting tangled up with your sheets.

Babeland’s Remote Vibe Panty gets a sneaky 8 out of 10:

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So, I recruited a straight guy friend to watch it with me (to provide a guy’s perspective for you) and we popped it in (the DVD not… you know… ^_~) to have a look.

What we liked:  The nice thing about watching a big budget porn is the attention to detail; the sets were nice, the costumes were good, and everything looked great.   Alektra Blue played a fantastic android (all joking aside about porn actresses’ ability), I was extremely impressed with how well she stayed in character.  However, for me, personally, Kristen Price stole the show a little – her character was just so damn spicy, and hot in her techie costume (esp the one they show her in on the cover).  I also enjoyed the details that were added for the story – like the “director” instructing Randy Spears’ character to ejaculate in the sex android’s removable oral cavity, and the discussion about Alektra’s character’s self cleaning vagina.  haha

What we didn’t like: It’s the same complaint I have about most mainstream porn – the sex is too repetitive and I get bored.  Especially with all the oral; I don’t know what it is, but watching blowjob after blowjob bores me to death.  My male friend even agrees with me here – there is too much time spent on bjs and he not only finds it boring, but doesn’t particularly enjoy looking at another man’s cock for so long.  But hey, that’s just us.  Oh, I also find Randy Spears a little creepy – though he DID play his role well.

Also, I couldn’t decide if this was bad or not – but 2040 is a REALLY long movie and the plot kinda drags by the end.  I’m wondering if maybe you’re not meant to watch it all in one sitting.

Final Verdict:  This porn was pretty to look at and the plot was carried out fairly well, but we still found it a little boring.   However, as I said above – we are quite picky.

2040 gets a 6 out of 10

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“My girlfriend get really apprehensive when I try to go down on her. She says its too much for her to handle. I am no doctor, but I am guessing that her clit is just ultra sensitive or something. Any tips you could give me on how to get her to be more open to letting me go down on her and on how I could maybe do it in a way that will not make her uncomfortable with the amount of pleasure shes getting.“

No matter how sensitive a woman’s clit is, there’s a point where stimulation doesn’t feel good anymore and it can almost feel painful – and it sounds like this is where you’re taking your gf when you go down on her. So it may not be so much that she’s uncomfortable with the “amount of pleasure she’s getting”, but that she isn’t getting much pleasure at all.

Try easing off a little: instead of diving in and attacking her clit, lick everywhere else instead. Spend more time on her labia and her inner folds. If you do go after her clit, take it easy: lick really gently and stay on the outside of her clit hood.

You also need to be willing to STOP when she says she’s had enough.

If she still finds that it’s too much for her, then cut it out. The point of giving her oral sex is to give her pleasure, right? If she doesn’t find is pleasurable, then there’s no point in doing it. Everyone’s body is a little different and there’s no reason for you to try to force her to conform to the idea that “all women enjoy oral sex”.

If she doesn’t like it, I’m sure you can find some other ways that you’ll BOTH enjoy to get off. :)

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“Hi  I’ve been reading your blog for a while now.  I know you can give me some advice for a problem of mine. My boyfriend and i are very close and we love each other madly, we’ve been having sex for over a year now, the problem is, i haven’t been able to get an orgasm with him in all of this time. I’ve tried to tell him what i like, we’ve read books, we tried oral (he did’t like it)… but nothing works, i just can’t feel anything.  At first i didn’t gave it much importance, but now, this whole thing has made me feel like there’s something wrong with me, and i can’t enjoy sex anymore, and this is affecting him.  Please help us, we are open to experience, toys, anything, we just want to fully enjoy our sex life together.“

Have you been able to have an orgasm when you’re alone? (If not, you need to work on that first – sometimes it’s easier to let go and hit the Big O when you’re alone and not feeling any pressure from outside parties.)

Let’s assume that you can come when you’re masturbating alone and go from there.

A lot of women have trouble reaching orgasm when they have sex (the last time I checked the percentage was around 75%), and this can be the result of any number (or combination) or factors: some women have trouble relaxing enough, some women can’t get the right kind of stimulation from vaginal (or anal) sex, and some women just can’t let go and focus on their own pleasure when they’re with someone else. So let’s work on this a little and see if we can help you a bit.

Step 1: Relax. Stop stressing so much about your sex life. Yes, orgasms feel really good and people often use them to decide when a sex act is complete, but the orgasm doesn’t have to be the main point or end goal of sex all the time. Sex can still feel darn good and be a lot of fun, even if you didn’t get to come this time. Stressing out about whether you will be able to orgasm or not is certainly not likely to help you get there.

Step 2: Turn up the sexy before sex. It sounds like your partner, unfortunately, isn’t too into foreplay: well too bad for him. You should try spending some time being physical together, but not having sex with your partner – try having a bath or a shower together or giving each other full body massages. This will give you a chance to be close and touchy-feely, without the pressure of orgasm focused sex.

Step 3: Turn up the sexy even more! The more turned on you are before you start having sex, the better it will feel, and the more likely you are to be able to have an orgasm – even if you don’t manage to O, it will still feel really good when you’re extra turned on before you start. So you need to do what you need to do to get horny: read a sexy story, watch a good porn, “forget” to wear panties on a date, talk dirty in public, spanking – whatever works for you.

Step 4: Don’t be shy to bring in outside help. By outside help, I mean bringing a buzzy little friend with you into the bedroom. Try having one of you massage a little mini vibe over your clit while you have sex or using a vibrating cockring or some other toy that you can use hands free. This will amp up the stimulation that you’re getting (since clits often get neglected during penetrative sex) and could help you come.

Step 5: Relax (again) and don’t get discouraged. If you didn’t get to orgasm this time, don’t worry about it, there’s always next time – focus on the good points and don’t beat yourself up for something that you can’t really control.

I hope that helps! ^_^

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At first I was trying to figure out why KS would bother including two different bottles of massage oil (esp since I wasn’t a big fan of the viscosity of their oil of love in the raspberry box); but then EssinEm thoughtfully pointed out that one could use the oil of love as bath oil, rather than massage oil – ahhh.

So, first you would casually strew the scented rose petals around your bed to set the mood; then you would invite your lover to strip and repose on the bed where you would proceed to massage each other with the massage oil; following that you would then move to a nice hot bath, where you added some of the oil of love as you filled the tub; and finally after bathing together, you would rub on some of the body soufflé lotion.  Oh wait – I forgot the boudoir puff!  I suppose you could use that to hang in your closet or in a drawer to scent your clothes (assuming you like the honeysuckle). Right, now that that’s sorted, let’s get on with my review!

What I liked: I loved the scent of the vanilla lotion – it smells like cake icing!  It also worked very nicely as a lotion and my skin felt nice and soft after using it.  The rose petals were cute, I actually first tested them a few weeks ago they are still turning up because a bunch fluttered off the bed and ended up under dressers and things – haha!  Also, the massage oil did have a nice texture (MUCH better than the oil of love) for massagings.

What I didn’t like: Well, with this type product, scent is important and scent preferences can be pretty subjective.  So, just because I find the honeysuckle dust overpowering and wasn’t a huge fan of the strong rose-water scent of the massage oil, doesn’t mean you might not love them yourself.

This product would be great for: people who’d like to get a romantic evening in a box – could be great for couples or even for your next orgy.  ^_~

Kama Sutra’s Sweet Celebration Box gets a sweet 7.5 out of 10:

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“Hello Shay I’ve been reading your post for a little while, and have have a question to ask. My girlfriend and I have moved forward in our relationship, but I don’t want to go all the way and she respects that, so we have looked to alternatives, and we have done some “digit” play and I wanted to know if I can do anything to “increase” her pleasure. so if you have any tips for me I would be much appreciative. Thanks. “

Well, it is important to wait until you’re ready before you take that plunge into the deep zone of full on sex – but that doesn’t mean that there isn’t a whole lot of fun to be had while you work your way there.

“Digit play” (aka fingering) is a good start – remember not to just ram your fingers in and out of her as fast as you can;  you should stroke in and out slowly yet firmly (though not too slow, obviously).  You can incorporate more fingers too, or even try switching to your thumb for a change (sounds weird, but it’s worth a try).  You can enhance your “digital play” by adding a little vibe to the mix that she can gently press onto her clit.  You can also try massaging her clit with your fingers, but remember to make sure that your fingers are lubricated and not to jab at it too roughly (clits are sensitive!).  Other than that, you can use your mouth (aka “eat her out” aka engage in cunnilingus).  You can dry hump (aka engage in some frottage).  You can also try some mutual masturbation, which can be nice because watching her stimulate herself will give you a better idea of what she likes – information that you’ll want to use later.

Remember it’s V-Month!
You know where to send all your vag related questions!
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