I recently had an email from a longtime reader who was having a problem.
It seems that they were a very active commenter on The S Spot (which I love!! <3 <3 <3 ), but had been using their “real life” business email address. While I definitely appreciate you leaving a real email address with your comments (so that I can contact you to follow up, if need be), this caused a problem for this reader when a work colleague googled them and came across all their naughty little comments here!
Luckily they were able to use a google tool to search and highlight all their comments for me and I manually went through and edited them to protect this reader’s identity from future awkward co-worker discoveries.
So, the take-away from this little story, my dear readers, is this: do leave comments on your favourite sexy websites, but make sure you use a different email address so that co-workers can’t see your private interests (unless you want them to – kinky!!)
Fan Expo weekend is coming up in Toronto and to prepare I thought I’d order myself a cute Chun Li costume from my friends at Costume Discounters.
The costume arrived very speedily from UPS (yay!) and I was super excited to try it on!
Since I tend to range (depending on the store) between a size 6 and a size 8, I ordered the costume in medium (better too big than too small I thought to myself – FORESHADOWING!). I was delighted that package would come with the dress, the sash, the hair dealies, and the spiky bracelets (since not all the Chun Li costumes on the market do). When I opened up the package, I found that all the fabric pieces were intact and made out of the same light polyester material usually used to make these types costumes. The bracelets were pretty fantastic and sturdy, which was impressive.
Unfortunately I had some problems with the dress. Remember I ordered a medium? It’s supposed to fit someone sized 8-10, so it should have been perfectly fine on me – it was not. The sleeves were very tight and uncomfortable and the skirt barely (and I mean dangerously barely) fit over my hips. The dress has velcro closures at intervals up and down the back. On one hand this type of closure is terrible because it’s not very secure, on the other hand, if there had been a zipper I would have likely ripped the whole dress apart as soon as I moved – with the velcro I merely undid the back of the dress when I moved my arms. Still, I soldiered on. The next step was to tie on the sash. Maybe I’m stronger than I thought, because as soon as I pulled the sash tight, it started to come apart at the seams!
In conclusion. It was a nice try, but the costume is unwearable for me. I guess I’ll just hold on to the spiky bracelets in the hopes that I find something else that works as a Chun Li dress.
I dont know if this has been addressed in your blog or not but I dont remember reading about it anywhere. I’d like some of your thoughts on polyamory. Me and my husband thought we wanted to be swingers but decided that we didnt want to go down that route because we dont just want to have sex with strangers we want an emotional relationship with another girl and for her to be an equal partner in our relationship and to have a friend and a lover both in the bedroom and outside of the bedroom, basically we want a polytriad.
I’m just curious about your take on polyamory and if you have any resource material and/or advice on how to talk to ppl who dont practice polyamory so we can explain our relationship when they ask.. especially our family because we know they arent going to be accepting or understanding about the relationship. We dont know how ppl really view the polyamory lifestyle outside of the bible belt (where we live).
I definitely feel that polyamory can be a great choice for the right people.
It sounds like you and your partner have really put a lot of thought into what you want in your lives, which is very important and less likely to lead to any hurt feelings or jealousy (which is always a risk when new partners are introduced to a relationship).
I’d like to tell you to just forget what other people might think, but that wouldn’t be very realistic advice, unfortunately.
We humans are very social creatures and can be very rigid in our thinking sometimes so you are definitely going to encounter family and community members who just don’t understand your life, because they can’t imagine having it for themselves.
I wish I knew more about polyamory, but I’m pretty inexperienced in this matter. I would suggest doing a thorough google search for polyamory resources to see if anyone who currently lives this lifestyle has any advice. In the mean time, keep your head down and your chin up – you might need to keep your private life very private for a while, which sucks and isn’t really fair, but hopefully eventually the people important to you will come around.
How about you, my readers, any advice for this couple?