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Happy Lunar New Year!

Welcome to the Year of the Water Dragon!

Got any big plans for the new year?
Apparently the year of the dragon is the year to shoot for things that you previously thought might be impossible for you!

CockBlogging Wednesday 231

Well folks,
today is the day when a lot of websites are protesting the proposed PIPA bill.

It seems that we (and by “we” I mean my American readers, though this bill would still affect me, up here in Canada) were threatened with SOPA just to freak everyone out, so that when PIPA was proposed it would look much more sane and it would look like an acceptable option.
But PIPA is not sane and NOT an acceptable option – the wording of this bill is still so vague that it would give a few people way too much power over the internet.

Read more about PIPA
Use CakeWrecks’s tool to contact your congressional representative (if you live in the US)
If you don’t live in the US, you can still petition the state department!

Once you’ve done that,
scroll down and check out today’s pic!

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Just thought I would send in a pic of me and my new drac fleshlight for cbw. This pic was taken after my 2nd use of it on the day I got it. It seems fleshlight produce more exotic toys each year. This time with their freak range.”

If You Don't Have Anything Nice to Say...

 

 

Recently comedienne Margaret Cho got some new tattoos that she was very happy with. So, she tweeted a pic, to share them with her fans.  Unfortunately two people decided to let Cho know that they think she doesn’t look very attractive.  Cho didn’t take too kindly to their rude comments, and not only blocked these two users, but told them off as well.

Some people think she reacted a little harshly, but she feels completely justified:

I did not choose this face or this body and I have learned to live with it and love it and celebrate it and adorn it with tremendous drawings from the greatest artists in the world and I feel good and powerful like a nation that has never been free and now after many hard won victories is finally fucking free. I am beautiful and I am finally fucking free.

I fly my flag of self-esteem for all those who have been told they were ugly and fat and hurt and shamed and violated and abused for the way they look and told time and time again that they were “different” and therefore unlovable. Come to me and I will tell you and show you how beautiful and loved you are and you will see it and feel it and know it and then look in the mirror and truly believe it. If you are offended by my anger and my might at defending my borders and my people you do not deserve entry into my beloved and magnificent country.

Read the whole article in Jezebel HERE.

This whole thing made me think about HNT again.  Very few people in the world have “perfect” bodies, most of us have flaws that could be objectively criticized.  Yet, during my time perusing people’s photos, I never saw any negative comments on people’s HNT photos.  Commenters always seemed supportive and often grateful to the photo submitters for sharing these private (and sometimes very explicit) photos.  And you know what, that’s how it should be.  If you don’t have anything nice to say about someone’s photo, it’d better to just not say anything at all.
People usually know what their physical flaws are and don’t really need an anonymous person to point them out.

What are your thoughts on Cho’s comments?

One Last HNT

My very very long time readers may remember a long-time phenomenon called HNT
Which stands for “Half- Naked Thursdays”.

HNT was all about bloggers sharing a little extra with their readers,
maybe something sexy, maybe something silly,
but always something personal.

We here at The S Spot used to participate in HNT too!
So when Osbasso (the founder of HNT) contacted me about participating in the final HNT, I could not say no.

You should definitely check out all the submissions to the final HNT – see if you can guess which thumbnail is mine! ^_~
Click though all the links and leave some comments – after all, that’s what HNT is all about, creeping and making new friends.

While I have you here, how about one final, final HNT treat?

Something Blue ^_~

See you all next time!

~ S

Pleasure Anxiety and Erotophobia

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eQ6d963Tvn0&feature=related

 

Thoughts?

Toy Review – Remote Control Little Black Panty

Usually I’m very selective about my panties, but my friends at Cal Exotics sent me a neat pair with not only a vibrating bullet, but that also comes with a remote control for the bullet – and that’s sounds pretty cool, amIright? 

The Cal Exotics Little Black Panty is an adjustable lacy black panty – with satiny ties on either side (that’s what makes it adjustable AND fun to take off), and a little pocket in the bottom for the curvy vibrating bullet.  The bullet takes two AAA batteries (byob) and the snazzy remote takes one of those weird 12 volt 23A batteries (thank goodness it’s included in the package). The plastic bullet is waterproof and cycles through 10 vibration and pulse programs – all triggered by the remote.

We thought the whole concept was pretty fun; you put on the panties, tuck in the bullet, give the remote to your partner, and head out for a night on the town.  There are some limitations though, the remote needs to be within around 15 feet to trigger the bullet; so you can’t let your partner get too far away.

What I liked:   I think remote control toys are a lot of fun, and I know my testing buddy thought it was super fun to be able to trigger the bullet at random as I moved around the apartment.  The panties fit relatively well and were pretty comfortable too.  The remote was sleek looking, easy to work (there is only one button!), and can be kept discretely in a pocket.

What I didn’t like:  The bullet’s motor was only soso and I found that I often had to adjust it so that the vibrations were close to where I wanted them.  The motor was also a little loud, so this toy would be fine in a night club, but you definitely couldn’t use it covertly at a dinner party without someone asking you if you need to answer your phone. 

Overall: This was a fun product, but the actual bullet needs a little more work in my opinion.

The Remote Control Little Black Panty from Cal Exotics gets a 5 out of 10:

 

More Thoughts on Pleasure

I’ve been thinking more about this idea of using pleasure as a safer-sex education tool…

I feel like a flaw in how a lot of people tend to think about sex has to do with pleasure in general.
And I’m not talking about sex ed here – I’m talking about people in general.
Too many people are unsatisfied in their sex lives.
Too many women put up with sex acts that they find physically uncomfortable – especially women who are new to sex and just think that it’s “supposed” to hurt.

I am definitely not the first person to say this, but it’s so important to keep in mind that I don’t mind saying it again.

The first step to enjoying sex (more, or at all) is to take responsibility for your own pleasure.

Realize that, although your partner isn’t malevolent (I hope!), they certainly can’t feel what you feel.
They don’t know that a position strains your back in a weird way.
They don’t know that what they are doing is unexpectedly rubbing you raw.
They don’t know that you’re not having as much fun as they are.

Unless you SPEAK UP and let them know.

There’s nothing wrong with saying that you want to change to a different position,
that you want to use some lube,
or whatever you need to improve what is going on.

Don’t put up with bad or painful sex (unless you wanted it to be painful) because you’re too shy to speak up.
Take charge of your own pleasure.
In the end your partner will be glad you did, because you’ll both be enjoying yourselves together, and because it will give them a chance to learn more about what you like so that, hopefully, you can have more fun sex together more often.

 

Cocktoberfest 230

I’m back from Houston!

My conference was great, I learned a ton, but I didn’t actually get to see much of Houston.
I didn’t even get to try that beer!

I did try TexMex cuisine though, and it was fine.
haha

Anyway, this week’s submitter is wearing a cowboy hat as an homage to my trip to the American West-ish area.
We actually did see some cowboys when we went out to a gay club, complete with sparkles on their arms – that’s the trend among the cowboys in Texas, right?

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Here is a nice photo of my cock I hope you enjoy. I love your blog!

Condom Pleasure

As I mentioned last week – I’m in in the US for a few days, attending a sexuality conference.
There are a lot of really amazing talks I’m excited about attending.

And, in fact, I just came back from a great talk on the importance of taking sexual pleasure into account when we talk about sex education.

I’ve talked about this before actually, about a year ago!

And think about it,
it can be stressful being a sexually active teen – especially when you don’t have good access to condoms.

People think that teens don’t want to use condoms because they “know” that sex doesn’t feel as good when you use one -
but really, teens are reporting that sex with a condom is more pleasurable!

And that kinda makes sense:

(If you’re heterosexual) You can really relax and enjoy sex a whole lot more if you don’t have to worry that letting your boyfriend ejaculate is going to get you pregnant.

What do you think about this?

Cocktoberfest 2011 - Closing Ceremonies!

This year’s festivities were a little short,
but the submissions certainly weren’t!
^_~

Thanks again to all our wonderful readers who sent in great pix for us!

But before I send you off to throw on a costume and greet the ghosts and ghouls on Halloween tonight,
let’s enjoy one more submission from, of course, our long-time regular cocktoberfest participant, Ronan!

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Hi Shay,
I was reading some of your old posts…and I got so excited, I just couldn’t help myself. I am hoping you’d understand. Now I think I’ll run to the fridge and open up a Sol and try and calm down:)
Love, Ronan

Spectacular as usual Ro ^_~

Any comments on this pic? Comments on the surprisingly long run of Cocktoberfest? This beer? Beer in general?
Post ‘em below!

If you’re sad you missed your chance to participate in Cocktoberfest this year,
don’t worry!
You can still send in a pic of your man or lady parts for our regular weekly CBW!
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