Guys have to worry about that on occasion, but do girls have anything that compares? [...]]]>

“Of course, everyone… or mostly everyone, knows that guys can get boners at the oddest times. Sometimes it’s merely a stray thought, other times, it’s nothing at all, and suddenly there’s a boner to worry about, often in a public place.

Guys have to worry about that on occasion, but do girls have anything that compares? Is there a female equivalent of an “awkward boner?”

As a side question, either for you or commenters, what is the most awkward place that you’ve gotten turned on and had to take care of business? Myself, it was at work, waiting tables. During a slow part of the day, after the rush had died down, all of a sudden I had to rush to the employee bathroom, or have to deal with a boner while attending customers.“

Haha! I’m trying to think of a female equivalent to the awkward boner, but there isn’t really anything “springing” to mind. Women just don’t really have anything that “pops up” to announce our arousal the the casual passer-by (unless you count nipples, but those are usually concealed by a bra), we’re pretty sneaky I guess. ^_~

I like your question about awkward places to be turned on – I’ll put that to my other readers and see what they have to say.

I always get turned on in places where it would be difficult to sneak away for a quickie (like at group events or when grocery shopping), but I’m struggling to think of a situation that was truly awkward; then again, maybe that’s because I don’t get boners (since I’m a girl sans cock).

So, gentle readers – what say you?  Where is the most awkward place you ever been super turned on AND what did you do?!

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Like a lot of men, and an increasing number of women, I like porn.  Hentai is great, and so is the live action stuff. However, lately I find myself being more responsible for what I consume. I don’t spend any money, but a page view still generates advertising revenue, which means now [...]]]>

“Hello there,

Like a lot of men, and an increasing number of women, I like porn.  Hentai is great, and so is the live action stuff. However, lately I find myself being more responsible for what I consume. I don’t spend any money, but a page view still generates advertising revenue, which means now and again I’m generating wealth for somebody even if the money didn’t come from *my* pocket. I don’t want to encourage unethical behavior, not even indirectly, for a matter as intimate and personal as a pornographic or erotic performance.

One of the things I don’t see discussed often in sex-positive (and porn-positive) circles is the very real possibility that the pornography industry is, well, unethical. I don’t mean the material itself; that’s a separate discussion. I’m talking about manipulation and abuse, mostly of women, many of them young (let’s face it, not all 18 year old girls really understand what they’re doing when they pose for the camera, or perform in a scene for that matter!). It’s difficult to untangle the evidence and opinions, though admittedly I haven’t tried very hard.

Then there’re health concerns. Now and again I hear noise in the industry about condom use during non-solo performances, for instance, but performers have repeatedly neglected that safety because consumers appear to prefer unprotected sex acts. That doesn’t seem right to me.

Any  thoughts, criticism, or discussion would be appreciated.“

I totally agree with you – there is a lot of ethically fuzzy stuff going on in the adult entertainment industry.  I have heard interviews with porn stars who talked about how if a woman isn’t willing to do certain acts (anal, double penetration, etc) she’ll often have a harder time getting work with some studios.
Plus, once she decides to (for example) do anal for a particular film, the studio will expect her to do it every/any time and will keep upping the ante on what they want her to do next.

The whole thing with condoms is a pretty weird mess too.  The porn industry has the opportunity to encourage consumers to use condoms – all they have to do is lead by example.  If in all porn the actors used condoms it would become more and more normalized and the general public might be more interested in using them as well.

The shitty thing is, whoever is deciding what people want to see in porn, doesn’t think people will watch it if there are condoms being used.  But really, it’s not like they even stop the action to put on the condom in the porn films where condoms are used – like many of the “real” parts of sex, it’s cut out.
I heartily believe that if all the studios started having their actors use condoms, their business wouldn’t suffer at all.  But maybe I’m naive?

The whole porn/erotica industry is really one giant grey area – esp when you get into issues of dehumanization and derogatory treatment of women in a lot of porn.  There’s evidence that it’s pretty damaging to both men and women who watch it, but some men AND women say that it does turn them on – so things can get pretty confusing in that body of literature.

What about you, readers – any thoughts on this topic?

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I have always been SO confused by the commercials for menstrual products showing women in white clothes.  My thoughts have always been: “dude, that’s just asking for trouble – what are you thinking?!”

On a similar vein, I’ve been trying to convince my roommate to be more open to having sex with [...]]]>

I have always been SO confused by the commercials for menstrual products showing women in white clothes.  My thoughts have always been: “dude, that’s just asking for trouble – what are you thinking?!”

On a similar vein, I’ve been trying to convince my roommate to be more open to having sex with a partner when she’s on her period – because she always seems super bummed that she has to go a week without sex.

I’ve tried telling her that it’s fine – you just have to be a little more careful if you don’t want to make a mess.
I’ve also told her that it can feel really great and helps with cramps!

But she’s still unconvinced.

So, what do YOU think about having sex or masturbating on your period?
For my hetero guys and lovely lesbians, what do you think about having sex with a woman who is on their period?
Acceptable? Gross? Awesome? Meh?
I’d like to hear read your thoughts!
^_^

Psst – I’ve also made a poll about this over in Eden Fantasy’s forums.

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In fact, today’s also comes with a question:

“Hi Shay, I thought I would send this along to you for cockblogging wednesday.  And I have a question you might pose to your readers. As you can see in the picture,  I [...]]]> Hey!
I did NOT forget about putting up a CBW for today
^_^

In fact, today’s also comes with a question:

“Hi Shay, I thought I would send this along to you for cockblogging wednesday.  And I have a question you might pose to your readers.
As you can see in the picture,  I am quite hairy.  In fact, there are few parts of my body where there is no hair at all, including my back.  From what I’ve heard many women say, generally, this is a dealbreaker.  So could you perhaps offer some comments on this, or even pose it to your female readers.
Thanks for your time, and as always, you’re doing a great job.  Keep it up.  I know I will. :) T.O.Y.“

I know, personally, I’m a fan of body hair – I like my men with a nice patch of fur on their chest.
But what about YOU?
What do YOU think?

~*~

(ALSO – Don’t forget that I need pic of your lady bits of Feb’s celebration of all things vaginal!)

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How many green pins did YOU get to put in? ^_~

If you didn’t quite have enough cash for something that you really wanted… something like… a nice new car or a fairytale wedding – would  you preform in and market your own porn videos?  I tweeted about this yesterday, but I’m still thinking about the couple that did just that.

I’m debating [...]]]>

If you didn’t quite have enough cash for something that you really wanted… something like… a nice new car or a fairytale wedding – would  you preform in and market your own porn videos?  I tweeted about this yesterday, but I’m still thinking about the couple that did just that.

I’m debating whether this is even really that news-worthy; how many people run adult websites where they post pictures or stream live feeds of themselves preforming various sex acts?  Lots!  Some of them do it for fun, some to supplement their income, and others make enough money that their personal website can be their primary (and only) income!

Maybe this story seems newsworthy because this couple appeared “average” until they decided to pick a (seemingly) unique way to make some extra cash for something special.  I wonder if they’ll keep up with making these videos even after their wedding – making your own porn might be pretty addictive!!

So, what are your thoughts on this whole thing?

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I recently posted some ideas for a reader who wanted to know how she could get her partner to give her want she wants in bed…

And that got me thinking.

How do you get what you want in bed?

Do you try to subtly hint? Do you demand? Do you turn [...]]]>

I recently posted some ideas for a reader who wanted to know how she could get her partner to give her want she wants in bed…

And that got me thinking.

How do you get what you want in bed?

Do you try to subtly hint?
Do you demand?
Do you turn it into a guessing game? (cold, warmer, warmer, hot!)

I wanna know!!

Alternatively,
Why don’t you get what you want in bed sometimes?
Were you too shy to ask?
Did you just give up on your partner’s clulessness?
Were you afraid to hurt your partner’s feelings?

[P.S.  I've also turned this into a poll over at Eden Fantasys]

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I’ve been getting e-mails asking if I could do another video, this time featuring me reading a section of Diary of a Futa aloud.

If you’ve been wondering the same thing, here is my answer [...]]]> Well well well
It seems a few of you really enjoyed my first attempt at video blogging.

I’ve been getting e-mails asking if I could do another video, this time featuring me reading a section of Diary of a Futa aloud.

If you’ve been wondering the same thing, here is my answer for you: sure, that sounds fun.
BUT

Which section should I do?!

You can find links to all the chapters in HERE if you need to refresh your memory, or just pick one at random.
^_~

Then vote in the following box below:

So, did you have any reasons in particular for picking the chapter that you did?

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What’s a spank bank? It’s the area in a person’s mind (and/or computer) where they store sexy stuff (ideas, images, [...]]]> A week or two ago I was talking (via Twitter) about how I know that at least one of my exes still keeps me (and some photos of me) in his “spank bank”.

What’s a spank bank?
It’s the area in a person’s mind (and/or computer) where they store sexy stuff (ideas, images, conversations) expressly for the purpose of using them for getting off when masturbating.

So what I want to know is, do you think this is okay?

Obviously we can’t control what other people put in their spank bank, but do you think exes should be off limits?

How would you feel if you found out that your ex still thought about you when masturbating, despite you both having moved on to new relationships?
Would you be flattered?  Creeped out?  Would you not care?

Similarly, how would you feel if you found out that the ex of your current partner still masturbates about them?
Would you be pissed off?  Would you feel proud?  Would you be indifferent?

BONUS
Would/do you put an ex in your spank bank?
Why or why not?

Let me know!

(And go vote on the poll I just created over at Eden Fantasys.)

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