The G-Spot Mystery Revealed OR "ACK! Go Back to My Clit"
“G-spot” articles are so pop culture; Cosmo does a “revealing” piece on them at least once or twice a year and many many other popular magazines have jumped on the g-spot bandwagon. By now most people know where a g-spot is supposed to be and generally what you’re supposed to do to it. But there’s a lot about the g-spot that popular magazines tend to gloss over because it doesn’t make good copy. So, since I’ve succumb to the pressure, let me at least reveal to you the things you might not know about the g-spot, the things Cosmo doesn’t want you to know.
First off let’s talk about where the G-spot is supposed to be and how one is supposed to find it – this wouldn’t be a real g-spot article if I didn’t cover this topic for the uninitiated.
There are a few theories about what the g-spot might be and where it is. Usually what we hear is that the g-spot is on the roof of a vagina (that’s “up” if you’re lying on your back) and that it’s a roughly textured bit of flesh that feels different from the rest of the tissue in the vagina. You’re supposed to wiggle a finger or two back and forth (in a “c’mere you” motion) over this area to stimulate it; then it’s supposed to enlarge and do something magical (that is, give you a “g-spot orgasm”). But looking for a bit of tissue that feels different isn’t very specific.
So Dr. Daniel Goldberg and his crew of researchers decided to go looking for it. They tried to find out exactly where the g-spot was in women by systematically stimulating the entire vagina, one little section at a time. In four of the 11 women examined, a sensitive area capable of producing orgasms was found in the same general region where the g-spot is described to be. So what’s in that spot that makes it so sensitive for some women?
There’s a lot of cool stuff in the roof of a vagina; there’s the urethral sponge, the urethra, Skene’s glands, and a bunch of nerves.
The g-spot has been said to be a bundle of nerves in the vagina, possibly descending from the clitoris. But when scientists have examined the vagina, looking for bundles of nerves, they weren’t able to find any area inside the vagina with extra nerve endings. So, the bundle of nerve endings g-spot idea is out.
The urethral sponge is made up of erectile tissue (like in the penis); when a woman gets turned on it swells with blood and compresses the urethra (so she can’t pee).
Hey! Wait a second; in the original description of the g-spot, we talked about it swelling, so perhaps the swelling part means we’re talking about the urethral sponge. When you massage the roof of the vagina, you’re massaging the urethral sponge as well. It’s also supposed to be highly sensitive, so maybe that’s what feels good for some women – massaging their urethral sponge, not some mysterious, magical bit of rough tissue.
The urethral sponge is also accepted as the location of Skene’s glands. I talked about Skene’s glands in my post about female ejaculation; it’s described as being the female equivalent of the male prostate gland and is believed to be the source of female ejaculation. So when the urethral sponge is being massaged, Skene’s glands may be getting attention too. This likely accounts for the belief that stimulating the “g-spot” leads to female ejaculation. So it is possible that Skene’s glands ARE the g-spot. All the pieces are there, it’s in the urethral sponge, which swells when a women is aroused, it’s in an area that can feel good when it’s stimulated, and it can produce female ejaculation.
But – and this is the part that usually gets brushed under the rug – not every woman has them AND they aren’t even the same in every woman who does.
Dr. Emanuel Jannini and his team of researchers examined a bunch of women, some alive and some cadavers, looking for Skene’s glands and a biological marker of sexual activity (an enzyme that is known to be found in men). They found that, even in their small sample size, not every woman had the same concentration of this enzyme AND their Skene’s glands were different sizes. In some women he couldn’t even find any Skene’s glands at all (these women also had the lowest concentrations of the enzyme)!
This might be why not every woman can experience a so called “g-spot orgasm” and why not every women can experience female ejaculation.
In fact many women don’t even want their g-spot area stimulated, for them it doesn’t feel good, it just feels uncomfortable and/or weird.
As we’ve seen, contrary to what some popular magazines, books, and sex toy manufacturers would have you believe, there is no universal “special trigger” inside the vagina that can automatically give women amazing orgasms. Besides, plenty of women have mind melting orgasms without putting anything inside their vaginas at all.
Instead of telling you that you should be built the same as everyone else and should go out a buy a g-spot stimulator, let me do something a little different and tell you that you need to explore your body for yourself to see what works best for you. Sexual pleasure isn’t just based on anatomy, it is affected by the context and by emotions as well as stimulating the right spots; so you can’t expect anyone to be exactly the same as anyone else.
(image from new scientist)