“I have one of those annoying “Is this normal?” questions.
Usually after a good 10-20 minutes of intercourse, I experience a lot of pain around the outside of my vagina. Most of the time I have to tell my partner to stop and let me finish him with my mouth, which gets a little frustrating. For a few hours after I have sex it REALLY burns when I pee and my labia are BRIGHT red. Sometimes I can’t have intercourse the next day because of the pain.
I’ve been checked for STDs, so I know it’s not anything like that, and I make sure that I’m well lubricated the whole time.. The pain is also pretty superficial; I don’t think I have spasms like I’ve read about when I was researching this.
So, I don’t know. Is this normal for most women after 15 minutes of sex? Is this a sign that my partner and I are playing too rough? should we tone it down? Or is this something that I should definitely go and see a gynecologist about?
You are fabulous, and I love your blog; it’s answered a lot of questions for me already! <3“
So, you said that everything is properly lubed, right? Because too much friction would have been my first guess. Other than that, if you’re using a latex condom, it could be that you’re allergic to the latex. Or (if you aren’t using condoms), if you don’t have a problem until after he’s ejaculated, it could be that you’re allergic to that – it happens, unfortunately.
I think this is definitely something that you should bring up with your gyn, they should be better able to figure this out and get you back to having wet and wild sex (for more than 15 mins).
P.S. Since it is V-Month, don’t forget to send me your vag related questions and I will do my best to answer them!