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Dielo wrote a great reaction to my (helpful) post on hair removal, I don’t know if he was distressed at the idea that he, as a man, might be expected to remove hair from his “back, crack, and sack”, or concerned with a general trend of “kindergarten sex chic” that he perceives to be taking over; but he managed to spark a little controversy with his thoughts and has inspired me to re-visit this topic.
The thing is, grooming is grooming. If trimmed pubic hairt is easier to keep clean than the bushy kind, then why not do it? Also, less-furry genital regions are more pleasant for a lover interested in giving oral sex, not to mention being more comfortable for many people in general.
But nobody says you have to shave off all of your pubic hair. And I certainly did not mean to add to any of the perceived social pressure out there. I meant only to give suggestions and tips for safe and comfortable hair removal, if you were going to do it.
However, I don’t think that pubic hair removal is about looking prepubescent.
Shaving off most (or all) of our pubic hair is done for many reasons including: to feel sexy, to fit in, cleanliness, and yes, perhaps to a certain extent, to look younger.
But there is nothing essentially wrong with any one of these reasons.
Well, our societies’ obsessions with looking younger IS unfortunate, but this is not new or uncommon.
Youth has always been valued across centuries and cultures; that’s when we’re firm and strong, and fertile – but it is very much a shame that the knowledge and experience of age is often less respected now-a-days.
[But perhaps the blog world is bringing back this idea of respecting our "elders" as people who have something to contribute. I know that some of the best written blogs are done by amazing and sensual creatures ten and twenty (and more) years my senior. ]
But, I seriously doubt that the majority of people who remove most or all of their public hair are thinking to themselves, “hey! You know when I was at my sexiest? When I was 5! Yeah, let’s bring that back.”
I think that looking younger is much less of a motivation for pube removal.
Many people are getting into pube grooming these days, so yes, there might be a little of the “everyone’s doing it, so why shouldn’t I?” attitude.
There’s certainly nothing wrong with wanting to fit in. This is a basic human need; if there isn’t someone or some group somewhere in the world that you want to fit in with well, something might be wrong with you. Humans are social creatures and we certainly wouldn’t want to be the only ones not shaving our pubes if it meant getting less acceptance and love/sex from important others. (*cough*psychmajor*cough*). Not to suggest that people won’t love you if you don’t shave/wax, that’s just silly.
Cleanliness is more and more important to us these days. The more we know about science and how many microscopic things are out there, waiting to make us sick, the more we want to make sure than we’re washing out hands with anti-bacterial soap and cleaning our counters properly to avoid salmonella.
For some, hair removal is just another step in making sure that things down there are clean and smell fresh. (Hairy crotches are fine, but stinky, not as is regular the delicious human pubic musk, but actually stinky = icky.) [But our obsession with cleanliness is a much larger topic, that I will have to go into more at another time.]
Some people just want to feel sexy -who doesn’t? Many shavers/waxers strongly assert that being bare is more comfortable for them, they enjoy more sensations (since that skin is now bare for the licking and touching) and most importantly they feel sexier with less bush.
You know what, as long as you aren’t hurting yourself, you go ahead and do whatever you need to feel sexy and hot.
If you need to paint yourself blue to feel sexy enough to be turned on and ready for sex, (as long as you are using non-toxic paint) you have my full support!
For some of us, it’s wearing “fuck-me” boots, for some it’s wearing silk boxers, and some like to have their pubic hair shaved into a neat little triangle or waxed completely off so that they can feel sexy. And I fully support this – sexy feeling people are happy people and the Shay likes happy people.
Comfort can also be a big factor. Some people just aren’t comfortable with hair down there moving and tickling and getting itchy or caught in elastics or zippers.
There’s nothing anti-feminist or anti-humanitarian about removing body hair – it’s just hair!
But we also should not judge those who do not wish to shave/wax/nair – just like they shouldn’t judge those who want less pubic hair.
Those of us who feel more sexy and more comfortable with all body hair intact (as long as things are clean) should be allowed to live their way without ridicule or pressure. Perhaps we should all be open to trying things both ways to understand each other better.
And don’t get me wrong, I’m all for pubic grooming, but I have no problem with body hair. Without the downy blond hairs on my arms and torso, my body wouldn’t feel as soft to touch, I like chest hair on my men (usually), and my dear Dielo, I have no problem with a firm sexy ass also being furry, but please trim your balls so I can go down on you. ^_~
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I must say, if I had natural green hair, I might just resist shaving so I could show it off
; )
I keep well trimmed and I was going to comment on the original post but it was a few days old when I read it so…
Anyway, I like having my shaft and sack bare, it feels good (not as itchy) and I think that its thoughtful towards MG since she gives such amazing BJ’s. I normally wear a cockring when I’m shaving, it keeps everything nice and tight and in a neat little package to work with. Not that its little… um I didn’t mean it that way.
I like the pic of the hairy pussy.
But, with me it is maybe an age thing. I like my women to be WOMEN. I enjoy the human body in a less-altered state, I suppose.
I’m a non-conformist like that. I want to fit in with the non-conformists, damn it!
And, I’m a dirty, DIRTY girl.
I keep very clean…however…I am NOT concerned with body hair on my lovers. I enjoy every inch of them. ….If they’re lucky.
I’m not concerned with germs and cooties. By God, I’m kissing and fucking this person. I am only concerned about condoms. Those are a must.
But, I do agree with being happy. And whatever floats your boat and rocks your world is all that matters. Whether it’s any of the aspects you mentioned, a person happy with their short and curlies is a person happy taking a roll in the sack. No matter what they decide to do with them.
“Pubes are personal”
Not any more, they’re societal. As I say, it’s fine what the individual cares to do with their own body hair – unfortunately society increasingly says different. There’s one road and one road only to follow, otherwise you’re condemned to be officially “icky”.
“Cleanliness is more and more important to us these days. The more we know about science and how many microscopic things are out there, waiting to make us sick, the more we want to make sure than we’re washing out hands with anti-bacterial soap“
Yes, and pay no heed to the rising epidemic of allergies, asthma and eczema in western societies.
I don’t find wheezing and flaky skin to be all that attractive myself, but then I’m clearly a filthy scuzball who wallows in their own stink, so what do I know?
I keep mine trimmed above my cock and shaved below. Its just too long if I don’t.
JeN – hehe That would be a sight to see!!
Tommy – hehe I’m sure it’s not little. Thanks for your input! ^_^
Strumpet – you ARE a dirty dirty girl! As long as the hair doesn’t get in my way, you go ahead and keep it all baby, I just want you to be happy. ^_~
Dielo – Yes there are some cases where it is indeed societal, like in the Arab world (thanks NN). But read the rules you naughty boy! I said that the cleanliness epidemic would be a topic for another post.
Sheen – See that’s the comfort factor I was talking about! Thanks Sheen! ^_^
Oh, I don’t keep it ALL…Good God, no!
I do like things to look pretty…
But, I guess that’s where it all comes in. What do we personally find to be a ‘pretty’ pussy? I LIKE a nice patch of pussy fur.
I only do the completely waxed thing once in a blue moon for fun. And it can be VERY fun indeed.
I do have a friend with COMPLETE 70’s bush…and I gotta say…she is SO hot…EVERYONE wants to get in her pants. Most don’t know what’s down there. But, I do. And I had never been with a chick before who didn’t touch a thing. I find it to be very feminine. I love the human body. I do.
I think Dielo was just concerned with the current trend and feeling that people may be feeling unclean if unshaven. Which is wrong we have enough hang ups about our bodies and appearences the last we need is more. So I agree with him to a certain degree. What’s more Some people like pubic hair. Some like a lot some like a little and some like none at all. There are guys that think women are gross if they don’t shave thier pubes. Personally on a guy I like their balls shaved but I don’t like the rest shaved I think they look silly. I think the point Dielo was trying to make was a rather important one and a simple matter of self acceptence and feeling comfortable with the natural form of ones body. A positive message all in all.
Hugs
Des
There’s one big plus point of shaving you didn’t mention:
The cock will look bigger when there’s no hair surrounding it. :-D
Well stated girl.
I tried to comment on this earlier but apparently, my computer doesn’t appreciate teamwork. Anyway, I just wanted to stop by and say:
1 – Wow! This post is amazing! Really, it’s great, it really made me think about things that I’ve never considered before. I guess that specific reasons for pubic hair removal just isn’t one of those things you think about so much, but when you do, there’s more to it than you realized in the first place, you know?
2 – Thank you very much for your comment on my blog. It’s great to hear from people and I really appreciated that you took the time to read and comment, so thank you most sincerely. In response to your question…at the time, I was just waiting. I didn’t have any religious reasons, so much. I just wanted to wait for a loving relationship that I felt could last a lifetime. I also wasn’t ready or comfortable with having sex at that point in my life. I felt it was a big decision, and until I was ready to deal with the potential consequences, I didn’t want to mess with it. Mostly, I just wasn’t sure, and I didn’t want to have sex until I was far beyond certain. And when, quite a long time later, I finally started trying to have sex with my boyfriend (it took over an entire box of condoms to break my hymen, no joke) I had reached that point. Saying no that first night is something that I have never regretted. And if anything, the lack of sex in our developing relationship just brought my boyfriend and I closer together.
Whew that was long! Now, I’ve got some reading to do! I’ve been busy this week and you’ve got a few new posts!!!! =)
Thank you again – for the thought provoking material and for the comment on my site, both!
Okay, first of all, kudos to Strumpet for using my favorite new phrase, “pussy fur”. :) Yes, I know Shay, you said it first.
I hadn’t really perceived a societal influence in this area. Certainly in porn, you see more and more shaving these days, and I wonder if part of the prevalence is the availability of technology. Who’s to say that people in the 30s wouldn’t have liked nice, smooth pubic areas, but it’s a lot harder to safely shave yourself with a straight razor than with an electric trimmer and a Venus razor.
Personally, I can’t imagine letting all the hair grow back. I’ve recently let the patch on my pubic bone fill in so it looks a bit more natural, but definitely keep the twig and berries free of underbrush. I love the feel of freshly shaven balls (mine anyway), and come on, who wants to be picking pubes out of their teeth? But I do think it’s just about what you and your partner like, screw society.
Strumpet – I think I’m a freak, even if I didn’t do anything I still wouldn’t have a lot of fur – so I don’t think I could have a huge bush like your friend, even if I wanted one (which I don’t). I’ve only gone totally bare a few times too, the first time felt kinda weird, like I was missing important landmarks – but of course you get used to it. (jeez I’m rambly tonight) ^_~
Des – Yes self acceptance is important. But I think too much of a big deal is made over this patch of hair just because of it’s location. People don’t harass you about “not accepting yourself” because you bleach your hair do they? (I hope not)
Pornster – Haha That’s true! Excellent point P, you rock!
Enigma – thanks babe.
RS – Yeah, I guess I’ve had a little training in thinking of reasons why people might do a vareity of things – but even I surprised myself once I got going on this one (I started this post days before I published it and kept adding to it). I’m glad you enjoyed this post and thanks for answering my question!
Waiting until you are sure that you’re ready is a great great reason for postponing sex. I can’t beleive your hymen was so strong – 6 condoms!?!
JUnder – Pussy Fur and Penii, we’re going to have to take another moment to giggle aren’t we J? ^_~ Advances in technology! That is a great point! Thanks for mentionning that! And that’s exactly what I was saying, do it for you and your lover(s) if you’re going to do it! Yay!
Actually yes people do harrass other people over such things as bleaching thier hair. But that is neither here nor there. Our country is SO hung up on thier looks they spend mega amounts of money trying to look perfect. Women are dying in our country trying to be thin enough. It is a serious problem. I don’t believe the question of to shave or not to shave is going to change that problem much but it is a reflection of the times.
Hugs
Des
As a man who loves women, I have to admit that the shaved, or “barely there hair” look is extremely erotic. I have always liked the look because it means that a woman is trying to be sexy, but not with the obvious things. It’s hidden, it’s a surprise, it’s a fun discovery to peel off her clothes for the first time and find out what’s there.
As the same time, I think I like some of the more obvious reasons as well. Like on the beach, a micro bikini, with no hair showing, means that the woman I’m with woke up and said, “I want to be sexy today.”
That attitude is wonderful.
Des – I guess it depends on how to look at pubic hair grooming.
Advizor – Beautiful! That’s exactly what I was gettting at! ^_^
I have a question for everyone. When I met my girlfriend, she used to shave, leave a nice little strip but now (about a year on) she leaves it. Is there anyway I can breach this subject without upsetting her? Am I wrong to want her to do that?
i’ve shaved my entire body a few time and i really love the sensations. i can’t keep my hands off myself! when i’m having sex or i jack off my orgasms are so intense. i like being hairless and to be seen. does that makes me creepy or weird to you girls?