I do have a history of car sickness, but this is not the first time [...]]]>

“Yesterday I was with a brand new partner, I gave him a blowjob, and swallowed. Today, I had woken up around 7am feeling unusually tired and queesy then, around 5:30pm, after a ride in the car, vomited, feeling instantly better afterward.

I do have a history of car sickness, but this is not the first time that something like this has happened. I have experienced this same phenomenon eight times already, six with a ex and, once today, once with a very long term fuck-buddy. This is only the second time this has ever happened with a car.

Help me Super Shay!!
P.S Also, any tips on how/where/what to get a/as first time vibe without a very snoopy parent discovering? Cheap, quiet, mildly powerful, insertable, and rechargable? Doesn’t need ridges or anything super special. Thanks!!“

I feel like the time interval between swallowing his cum and when you started to feel ill is too long for it to be an allergic reaction.  But, I’m not a medical expert.  It could be a coincidence, but 8 times seems like a lot of coincidences.  hmmm

Also, nausea and vomiting are an unusual reaction if it IS a semen allergy – usually people with semen allergies experience more “traditional” allergy symptoms: pain and swelling at the contact site (where the cum touched you), hives, trouble breathing, and swelling.  Also, semen allergies are relatively unusual with oral.  This may be because it’s the protein in the semen that people are usually allergic to, and the acids in the stomach burn up those proteins.

Still, if you think your nausea and vomiting had something to do with the semen and it’s not just a stomach bug or a reaction to something you ate (gluten?), I think your best bet might be to play it safe and avoid swallowing for a while.  Have your partner(s) wear a condom while you give him a blowjob (which is safer for you anyway) or just have him finish by hand – if you know what I mean.

If you still wake up feeling nauseous once in a while that may help you narrow down what is actually making you sick (maybe something else you ate/drank?) – if you never get nauseous again then you might want to talk to your doctor about getting tested for some sort of semen allergy.

As for your other question – how about getting one of those little hand-held vibrating back massagers.  There are ones that have three or four “legs” that you can usually find in a lot of different stores.  And since it doesn’t even look like a sexy vibrator, your snoopy parent(s) will have no idea what you’re really using it for.

Good luck!

less in your mouth might be better...

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I’ve got a problem. Me and my girlfriend have been together for a while now, and have been having sex for a couple weeks now. My problem is that no matter how long we go I can never cum while I’m having sex with her, I have to have her give me head for [...]]]>

“Hey shay,

I’ve got a problem. Me and my girlfriend have been together for a while now, and have been having sex for a couple weeks now. My problem is that no matter how long we go I can never cum while I’m having sex with her, I have to have her give me head for me to cum. This is all great for her cause we can go for hours, but ,trying not to sound selfish(haha), it makes me feel bad/sad. Advice please (:“

Just give it some time.

Maybe your body is confused by the relatively new experience of sex and can’t relax properly for you to orgasm until it feels something more familiar, like a blowjob.  There may be something about blowjobs that makes it easier for you to orgasm that way as well: it’s less work for you, you aren’t face to face with your gf, perhaps there’s less performance anxiety?

Hopefully this will go away on it’s own, in the meantime just relax and have fun – don’t worry about having her finish you up with her mouth for now.  (If this doesn’t sort itself out in a month or two, let me know.)

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“Hey Shay! I have a question about performing oral for my girlfriend. To be honest, I’m nervous about doing it. I know she wants me to, but I can’t bring myself to. I want to make her happy in any way possible, so could you give me some pointers on eating her out?“

It’s natural to be nervous of the unknown – if you’ve never attempted to give oral sex before I can see how you might be worried about what it’s going to be like.

Having never preformed oral sex on a woman before myself, I’m in a weird position here for trying to give you advice, but I’ll do my best.

First of all, don’t be scared – vaginas are soft and squishy, they aren’t going to bite you. Also, don’t worry too much about how it’s going to taste, all girls taste different and a girl’s taste changes throughout the month – if you don’t like how she tastes one time, just focus on licking around her labia and clit and stay away from the vaginal opening until she gets wetter.

Second, technique is really easy, most of the things it would occur to you to try will probably feel good:  lick her like she’s an ice-cream cone, draw the alphabet with your tongue, flick your tongue over her clit once she’s warmed up, etc. Actually this reminds me, you should hit up her clit last, because it can be too sensitive – in a bad way-  if you pay it too much attention when she’s not turned on enough. (I’m sure my readers will be only too happy to offer you even more tips for technique too. ^_~)

And remember, oral sex isn’t a solo activity: you’re allowed to ask her what she likes. Check in with her every so often and ask if she likes what you’re doing, find out if she wants you to pay more attention to something or stay away from anything. There should be lots of communication between the two of you to guide your movements.

Everyone is different too, so what works with one partner might not work with another; and what one person likes might change a little depending on their mood – but with practice you two should definitely be able to develop some fool-proof techniques that work for your current partner nearly all of the time.

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Plus, if you like my edit, you’ll probably like the full version too (click-through to see)

We’ve seen this couple before, but I didn’t think you’d mind seeing this new shot of them ^_~

“One of our numerous money shots. Your [...]]]> OMG
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Plus, if you like my edit, you’ll probably like the full version too (click-through to see)

We’ve seen this couple before, but I didn’t think you’d mind seeing this new shot of them
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“I feel a little silly asking this because I usually freak out over nothing…but the other day I just saw a commercial for herpes and then I shared a water bottle with this girl I know and I thought to myself is it possible to get that from sharing water bottles…seeing as I’m paranoid after [...]]]>

“I feel a little silly asking this because I usually freak out over nothing…but the other day I just saw a commercial for herpes and then I shared a water bottle with this girl I know and I thought to myself is it possible to get that from sharing water bottles…seeing as I’m paranoid after I drank too I went and washed my mouth ( I really am overprotective about my body). I’m pretty sure my friend isn’t promisicous…I know she stays with one guy but she does smoke and do weed so I just wondered about the whole viral shedding. Hopefully there is nothing to worry about and thanks again!“

The thing is, cold sores aren’t the same kind of herpes as genital herpes.  Also, someone being slutty doesn’t necessarily mean that they A) have genital herpes or B) have cold sores.   If you’ve never seen your friend with a cold sore, then she probably doesn’t have oral herpes.

If she does happen to have oral herpes, then it usually takes skin to skin contact with a lesion or direct contact with saliva. Sharing a drink or eating utensils (or a joint) with an infected person posses a minimal risk, so you’re probably okay; as long as you aren’t making out with someone infected with the virus or letting them give you oral sex.

I hope that helps!

P.S. If you did happen to pick up the herpes virus from making out with someone with a cold sore, washing your mouth won’t necessarily save you as the virus may already have entered your bloodstream through tiny abrasions on/in your mouth.

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Okay, I’ll admit it, I’ve been bad -
instead of updating the site like a good little sex blogger, I’ve been off skiing and playing too much RockBand2 with my family, but since everyone is taking a break to watch some food network, I was able to sneak away and do a little posting!

We’ve talked about blowjobs a few times on this site; in fact, we’ve even talked about the money shot (aka facials) in particular (see HERE), but this reader still has another question about it:

“I see a number of videos these days with so called “money-shots” that claim that women love them. I find this hard to believe and rarely see the recipients looking totally thrilled. I would have expected women either being willing to swallow or not, and if not, wanting a less demeaning and more convenient and easier clean-up approach than a face
shot. Do women really like this?”

That’s a fair question and the answer is – yes, no, and sometimes.

Some women love it: it turns them on to receive a “facial”; some women don’t like the idea at all; and still other women will like it, but only sometimes.  Remember,  just because you wouldn’t enjoy a certain act, doesn’t mean it wouldn’t get someone else off

One of the reasons some women do like it (or are willing to do it sometimes) is because they don’t find it demeaning.  Of course, there are also women who like it because they DO find it demeaning.  As I’ve mentioned before, whether an act is “demeaning” or not, is all in your mindset; similarly, whether being “demeaning” is a bad thing or not also depends on your mindset.

Now, for the ladies who only like facials sometimes, it usually has to do with whether it was planned or not, how turned on they are, what kind of mood they are in, etc.

What do you think about it my horny horny readers?

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My friend felt that it really can’t be called a “blowjob” if he doesn’t cum at the end of it, because it’s just not [...]]]> I was chatting with a good friend of mine about Monday’s post (the one about the guy who can’t cum and it turns out it’s because people keep walking in on him).

My friend felt that it really can’t be called a “blowjob” if he doesn’t cum at the end of it, because it’s just not the same act anymore.  So I asked him, “would you still call it ‘sex’  if there’s penetration but nobody orgasms?”  He wasn’t too sure.

So what do you think?  Is a blowjob still a blowjob if it’s incomplete?  Does it need a new term?
Is a hand job still a handjob if no one cums- or is it just feeling someone up?  Is masturbation still masturbation, or is it just playing with yourself?

Is our lexicon lacking in preciseness for sexual acts?  If spanish can have words to distinguish between a fish that is alive, a fish that is dead, and a fish that is dinner, why can’t we have words for every aspect of something like a blowjob?

Or do you think the terms already exist and I’m just overlooking them?

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