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Anal Toy Give Away - CLOSED

Some of the folks from EdenFantasys have been keeping up with our discussions on anal stimulation this week.
When they read that some of you have  resorted to using random objects rather than proper anal toys, well they just had to send me an e-mail about setting up a give-away!

They have a great guide to buying anal sex toys in their online magazine, so I  used that to help me pick out a great little sampler of anal toys for one of my lucky readers.
The winner of this contest will receive a Dicky butt plug, Pinks flexible anal beads,  and a silicone Flexi-Power rod (which vibrates). What more could you ASSk for?

That’s everything you need to go from being a bum beginner to an anal pro!

So how can you earn a shot and winning this fantASStic prize pack?
Just leave a comment below telling me either why you want to try anal stimulation or why you like it already.




Comment from ms.inconspicuous
Time March 20, 2009 at 2:44 am

Oooh. I’ve been trying to practice anal stimulation to prepare me for anal sex (which has proven to be uncomfortable). I’m working up to it, and I’m determined. So far, the intensity of self-stimulation has been okay, and is only getting better.

I’ve found that the self-exploration has removed a lot of my ass-prehension (sorry, I couldn’t resist) and has allowed me to learn a lot more about what angles and speeds feel right–and which don’t work so well.

I believe that self-play with anal stimulation is a fantastically erotic experience that only helps a healthy anal sex life.

I would love to try something that vibrates. :)

Comment from Mr. Mister
Time March 20, 2009 at 8:20 am

I agree that anal self-stimulation helps to familiarize yourself with your own body and also helps you understand your limits in that regard. Anal starter kits are great for this sort of thing, starting you out small and working up as you get more comfortable with your body.

I personally find anal stimulation incredibly sexy as any part of sex. A dildo or a buttplug in my own ass will send me over the edge either with mutual masturbation or sex itself. Plus, my girlfriend loves throwing on a strap-on and having a cock as big as the one in her imagination, and having pleased myself anally plenty in the past, she can go as wild as she pleases and we both have a great time. :)

Comment from Ki Two
Time March 20, 2009 at 11:51 am

Oooh, those beads look awesome *purr*. I like anal stimulation because it’s so much more intense feeling than normal vaginal fun. When I play with anal toy inside, I usually come faster and it’s a totally different experience than usual. I’d like to work up to the sex, too. <_< Butt I’m still nervous (lol).

Also, that plug looks really huge…and I’d love to try it. ^_^

Comment from NDO
Time March 20, 2009 at 12:03 pm

Well, I’ve been a fan of anal play since college, but my wife has only recently shown any interest in it. When I went to find something for her to experiment with, she was a bit intimidated by my collection. This looks like the perfect kit to give her something to start with! God, they all look SO fun!

Comment from Sisa
Time March 20, 2009 at 1:16 pm

I LOVE it! My boyfriend had never had anybody who would let them do that before, but he + I love it all the time now. I love anal penetration because as Ki Two said above, it’s a totally different kind of orgasm- it’s much more personal and intense than vaginal, I think.

I would totally let my boyfriend fuck me while I had the buttplug in, because he loves when I finger myself in the other hole [doesn't matter which] while he fucks me, makes it feel tighter for him. If I had a plug in, that would mean that I could have both hands free for working on our bits! Or, I’d love to walk around all day with the plug in. Def. one of my main fantasies is to walk around feeling hot all day without anybody knowing.

Oh, + I’ve ALWAYS wanted to try beads. So, yanno, def. a good deal. :) [I personally think you should, ahem, /spread/ the love, + give the three toys to different people, but it's your blog! (+ mostly I couldn't resist the pun)]

Comment from Reivanna
Time March 20, 2009 at 1:52 pm

I read your previous postings about the do’s and don’ts of anal and I’ve been thinking about giving it a try. Everyone seems to think it’s great I want in.

I’d have to have a slow and small start, but a small kit of toys would really help.

I’ve been reading your blog for a bit since PsycheDiver pointed it out to me and I really like it. Winning something like this would really shock him. Actually, the fact that I’m even submitting an entry would put a huge grin on his face. Who knows, maybe I’ll try it on him one of these days… ;)

Me winning this would bring happiness to two people who love your blog.

Comment from Shaun
Time March 21, 2009 at 3:20 am

Wow, this is a great opportunity… I was in the local sex shop with my girlfriend last night and we were looking at the anal toys. We enjoy anal sex, and we’ve been looking to get a bit more playful with the whole thing (possibly including switching roles), but we’re still a bit too unsure of our limits and how much we’d enjoy it to invest money in good toys.

Comment from Raven Quince
Time March 21, 2009 at 10:30 pm

I am a BIG fan of anal play. With the help of my husband, I’ve worked up to receiving him reasonably well. For me, anal stimulation heightens overall sensations. On the right day, I want nothing more than to grind my ass against my husband, his fingers or a toy. And in those cases, I desperately want DP. The problem is that we have no toys designated for anal play.

But, these toys look amazing! I’ve been wanting to try beads for some time, so the Pinky beads look like a great set to try. The Dicky plug would be great for DP fun. And, oh my, that Flexi-Power rod has some excellent reviews. I’d love to add my own review to the list. Also, if I won this, I’d probably give my husband the choice of which one would become his. There’s no reason why he shouldn’t feel the love too :)

Comment from n
Time March 22, 2009 at 1:40 am

I love having my ass played with…kissed, grabbed, spread, licked, fingered, slapped, and fucked. However, I have yet to try any toys and my student budget does not leave any room for such exciting frivolities.


In some ways I almost feel as if anal sex is more intimate form of contact than many others. I believe part of this is due to the amount of trust one must put in ones partner as that area is more delicate. Also, it’s about relinquishing some of my control. Being pinned down and slowly having his lubed up cock inside of me. Very hot.

And as the previous post mentioned I too am willing to share my toys with my boy if he finally decides he is ready for this. ;)

Comment from Matt
Time March 22, 2009 at 1:46 am

I’ve been loving anal play for about a year now, ever since a female friend convinced me to try it. The feeling is, quite simply, amazing, and I would love to not have to use household objects (like the hair brush you mentioned) in my every day play. I’ve also been looking to find a way to breech the subject with my girlfriend (to get her to do it to me), who isn’t particularly kinky, and think this might be a good way to do it.

Comment from Matt Murdock
Time March 22, 2009 at 4:35 am

why won’t you give away a fleshlight?

Comment from Rick
Time March 22, 2009 at 7:38 am

My wife and I have been disussing trying anal sex. I want to try and she is hesitant. Hesitant because she feels it might hurt. I don’t press the issue, but then again I don’t ever completely drop the issue. She enjoys a finger in her and I know a cock is bigger, but at least it’s not completely off limits. This is a test of patience (mine of course). But I am willing to to take the time so she is comfortable and, most importantly, wants to try it. Her idea. I thought introducing a new toy would be a step towards that. If she’s willing to try the toy…

Comment from C
Time March 22, 2009 at 6:56 pm

For a while now my boyfriend and I have been trying to get anal to work, with only once having any luck.
A few toys might help me relax with the prospect of it, and would be such a great surprise for him when he found out I had been trying. I could play on my own, and get rid of some of the fears I have about anal play. I’d love to be able to let him fulfill his fantasy about anal play.

I know he’d love for me to practice some anal play on him as well, alas my fingernails tend to hurt him and has prevented us from going any further. Every time we go to the local sex shop, I look at the anal toys..but a college student’s budget doesn’t really allow for purchases that might not work.

Comment from qwerty
Time March 23, 2009 at 12:56 am

it’s nice that they are reading the blog and willing to make sure someone doesn’t hurt themslef trying something new or just even tring something old with something new

Comment from D
Time March 23, 2009 at 7:35 pm

I started experimenting with anal on myself over 40 years ago — with odd objects, but I was very careful and a little lucky. When I have enough relaxed time with myself, or when my spouse is willing, it is the most healing feeling I know to have a gentle but full anal massage.

A butt plug is also a wonderful, fun way to keep me aware of my bum and (sometimes) to help me keep my mind off other less-pleasant things I need to be doing — very helpful during tax season!

Comment from Thursday’s Child
Time March 23, 2009 at 10:11 pm

I have a love/hate relationship with anal sex. Anal sex is amazing and I come from anal sex so intensely! But it’s that same intensity that keeps me from wanting it all the time - it’s almost too much stimulation. The sensations are so intense that I almost can’t take it. But I’d love to get to where I could do it more often because ohmigosh it feels amazing when we do!

Comment from ephraim
Time March 24, 2009 at 10:00 pm

like the above commenter, i also have a love/hate relationship with anal sex. i find that if i’m going to be on the receiving end of any kind of ass play, it needs to be the only show in town (so to speak) for that play/sex session. i can’t come from anal stimulation, and it’s very arousing, so there’s always the nagging temptation to involve other kinds of sex into the mix at the same time. but that always ends up being overwhelming in a not fun way. so, using anal toys is a good way for me to give my ass the attention it deserves without feeling the pressure to come or add in any other kinds of play. and if it eventually leads to more comfort and less overwhelmingness, then all the better.

Comment from Chrys
Time March 25, 2009 at 10:34 pm

I’m trying to learn to like it. My boyfriend is into the idea, and I’m mentally into it, but physically… not really there. I figure more fun toys can only help! ;)

Comment from Narcissu
Time April 13, 2009 at 11:06 pm

well i tried anal stimulation and i didnt enjoyed it maybe i did something wrong or not, so i am here on a “why not” situation so why not give it a chance and tri to win a toy maybe it helps me enjoy anal stimulation, people get to like it why not me.

anyway i dont know if i can win i live in southamerica. :D

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