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Man Pubes – a discussion

One of our lovely CBW participants asked very nicely if I would put forward a question for my readers’ consideration.  How could I say no? – he’d already shown us his bits!

It’s a fairly simple question:
Do ladies prefer their man’s cock to be shaved completely clean, given a little trim, or left wild?

Also – what about my gay readers, what are their thougts on this matter?

Personally, I prefer trimmed: things just look too naked without any hair and can look silly if he also has a lot of body hair, but leaving it wild can look messy, be smelly, and the long hair can get in the way.

So, what do YOU think?


Comment from Amber
Time November 8, 2008 at 1:39 pm

I like my men – and women – neatly trimmed. A little bit of hair can be a neat sensory experience for both sides, but too much is hard to work around and too little doesn’t look quite right. Plus that’s a LOT of upkeep to get ALL the little nooks and crannies down there completely smooth, and keep it that way – even if you do go to a professional!

Oh, and also: natural shape is best! I really do not enjoy when people get all sculptural with their pubic hair. Cleaning up the edges is great, but anything beyond that is hard for me to take seriously.

But in the end… hell, I’m getting some, and as long as they’re clean and disease-free, who am I to micromanage their grooming habits, right? :D

Comment from Rhiannon
Time November 8, 2008 at 5:58 pm

I like a little hair… on both sexes … *shrugs* Im with Amber on this one…

Comment from Sexorcism
Time November 8, 2008 at 6:33 pm

I don’t see anything objectionable about pubes. Neatly trimmed can be nice, completely bare can be fun for a change of pace (and better for sensation play) but there’s nothing wrong with what nature placed there.

Comment from Gamma
Time November 8, 2008 at 8:50 pm

You suggest the middle compromes, that’s OK. I prefer trimmed or removed, and acatually prefer trimmed bodyhair, too, be it my girlfriend or myself. It gives a nice sensation, maybe that is the main reason.
Shaving can be right out dangerous! Therefore: Use a not dull shaver :-)

Comment from S.
Time November 8, 2008 at 9:27 pm

Trimmed, and I hate when people say “You have to shave down there.” I

Comment from Moondai
Time November 8, 2008 at 11:32 pm

Frankly I need it shaved, I really do >.< I can’t stand the feel of body hair, specially pubes. It gives me an instant rash and makes me uncomfortable. I keep myself completely shaved down everywhere. I’d like it if my guy shaved down there too but all I can really get him to do is trim which is better than nothing..

Comment from Eric
Time November 9, 2008 at 1:01 am

I think I prefer it if a girl didn’t shave to being completely shaven. I think there’s just something inherently sexy about it. Same with trim… but hey, I’m not going to complain if they go bald.

Comment from Monkey
Time November 9, 2008 at 3:33 pm

i prefer my body to be trimmed/shaven…i prefer my partners body to be trimmed, shaven is completely up to them…


Comment from exile
Time November 9, 2008 at 3:57 pm

when it come’s to ‘gina, i like to think of my self as an artist, i prefer a clean canvas to work on.

Comment from JD
Time November 10, 2008 at 4:33 am

For me, I really hate body hair on myself, so i try to have most of my body hairless as best i can.
When it comes to the female body, i prefer trim/shave vag and no hair any where else in the nether region… Once had sex with a girl whose ass was like a jungle, turned me off anal for a while

Comment from n
Time November 10, 2008 at 10:41 pm

i prefer neatly trimmed. i find it looks a bit scary without any hair.

Comment from Rosie
Time November 10, 2008 at 11:06 pm

I agree with Shay. I like my man to look like a man, but sometimes I offer to help with a trim.

Comment from Camilla
Time November 11, 2008 at 12:42 am

I love a natural-looking trim best. Full bush isn’t a deal-breaker for me at all, but a completely bald cock/balls is a total turn off! I can’t wait till the bald look goes out of style again.

Comment from Dee
Time November 11, 2008 at 10:04 pm

I shave my man-parts clean once a week, so by mid-week it looks trimmed, but doesn’t feel too stubbly. I enjoy sex more when my cock is shaved and when my partner is shaved, but it’s not a deal-breaker either way. Any look, hairy or shaved (on either gender), can be sexy.

Comment from Vixen
Time November 12, 2008 at 1:08 am

It has to be shaven. Clean. I just have issues with pubs. I do it to myself and I prefer my partner, male or female, to be the same. I find pubic hair to be a turn off. I’m spoiled brat like that. ;)

Comment from Ramis
Time November 12, 2008 at 1:52 am

trimmed for sure, shaved is ok. but trimmed is at the top, natural second, and third shaved. IMO.

Comment from Dave
Time November 12, 2008 at 7:23 am

My wife shaved for the first time on 20 years about 6 months ago and I love it. I shaved for her and she wasn’t so thrilled, so I let it grow back.

I shaved again for my new lover. Turns out she loves shaved and would have been turned off by hair.

Soo what am I to do? Clean or natural?

I prefer the clean too so it’s staying off and my wife will just have to learn to live with it.

Comment from carol
Time November 12, 2008 at 3:30 pm

I loved this post and comments. I have to trim, it gets long and caught in my panties, ouch, and I try to shave but am never really bald. I want to have a brazilian wax but never have. I like my man trim, not bald.

Comment from Marie-Eve
Time November 12, 2008 at 7:19 pm

I trim myself but not all shaved… Remind me of a 8 years old and I don’t like that… :/ For my boyfriend, I don’t care! He can be trimmed, shaved or all wild… lol I know how to keep hairs outside my mouth! lol

Comment from Rae
Time November 12, 2008 at 10:06 pm

I have to go with trimmed up, but not bare. I may like myself bare, or mostly bare–but it does look a little funny on a guy unless it is natural.

Comment from Lach
Time November 15, 2008 at 9:45 pm

I prefer my women completely shaved thankyou. Personally I like a little bit of stylised hair, don’t mind a bit of a landing strip.

I personally shave my cock every few weeks, but not the hair on my actually body above the penis, which is trimmed.

They are a fine contrast.

Comment from sillybit
Time November 16, 2008 at 12:02 am

as far as looks on guys go, i think i prefer trimmed, but i really prefer for fun the balls at least to be bare…my husband says that’s the hardest bit to shave though, so it’s somewhat of a rarity

Comment from scott
Time November 17, 2008 at 3:11 pm

I prefer myself shaved… I don’t know, looks neater, not hidden away or anything, and women, well, it’s all good, but if you want me not spitting hairs, then shaved or trimmed :-P

Comment from Jeff
Time July 25, 2009 at 7:01 am

I’m 48 and I have been shaving my tool about 8 years. I wish I would have started sooner. Feels great, cleaner and looks nicer.

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