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Reader Question – Extra Skin and More Oral

Hi Shay, I have been talking to this guy for a while and we decided to have sex. He didn’t tell me he wasn’t circumcised and the sight of an uncircumcised penis isn’t something that turns me on. Also, to my disappointment, he doesn’t like to perform oral sex. Usually getting my pussy eaten is the only way I can get really get aroused. What else can I/He do to get myself back to the way I used to be?

I know that when you’re used to being with circumcised guys, seeing a un-cut penis in person can be a bit of a shock for some people. Heck, I know I was a bit alarmed the very first time I was with an un-cut guy. But eventually you’ll get used to it and it won’t seem like such a big deal.

There are a lot of good thing about the uncut boys, for instance it’s a lot easier to give a uncircumcised guy a hand-job. As for blowjobs, since you are the one in control, you can pull the skin down, away from his glans and “ta da” it’s just like what you’re used to. Who knows, given time, you may grow to love uncircumcised penises just as much as (or even more than) their foreskin-less brethren. ^_^

(So long as he remembers to make sure that he pulls the skin back when he’s washing himself in the shower so that he doesn’t get stinky – that is not a pleasant surprise when you go down on a guy.)

Besides, it’s not a penis (cut or not) alone that turns you on, it’s the whole person.

As for getting some more oral action, try talking to him about it. Tell him how it turns you on like nothing else and he may be more interested in giving it a go. And remember that oral is all about reciprocity; it’s only polite to give some if you expect to get some.

I have a few other posts on the matter if you’d like to check them out:
wanting oral
asking for oral

12 comments to Reader Question – Extra Skin and More Oral

  • Anonymous

    Better get used to it! The cutting of penis skin is getting less and less common every year in almost all nations.

  • exile

    yeah, pull the turtle-neck back and you’re fine

    as for the oral, find out why he doesn’t want to. some guys will opt-out of oral if a woman isn’t “groomed” to his liking. of course if he’s just not into it then you might need to find someone who is

  • Gadfly

    If you don’t give, you don’t receive. That’s the rule.

  • The Wandering Lover

    I love the picture.

  • Sem

    I always wonder why male circumcision is considered acceptable, but female circumcision isn’t. Not that either one should be considered acceptable.

  • Ms. Inconspicuous

    I like the give-and-take rule–only give what you receive and vice versa.

    Funny, some guys just don’t like giving oral–and for every one of those, there are ten that LOVE it to the point of begging to do it.

    My husband doesn’t do oral. That’s fine. I have another who will. *wink*

  • fireweaver

    careful, there, sem: female “circumcision”, well, isn’t. it’s a whole ‘nuther ballgame, and the 2 procedures aren’t remotely comparable. i’ve met (and hey, even slept with) guys who could still orgasm perfectly fine, though they were circumcised…but the female procedure is specifically designed to remove a young woman’s physical ability to enjoy sex.

    and i’m with the rest of the people here: if he’s not willing to give as well as receive, that’s just no fun!

  • Sem


    Okay, let’s consider a less severe definition of female circumcision. Would it acceptable for parents to surgically remove the hood covering the clitoris on their infant daughter, resulting in her clitoris losing sensitivity as it rubs against fabric over time?

    I just think it’s a shame that in our culture, a non-mutilated penis should be considered unattractive.

  • Anonymous

    If you don’t give, you lose the expectation of getting. Sorry, that’s the way it is. I like performing oral sex on both genders, so maybe I’m biased, but if someone is willing to pleasure you, you should be willing to return it. While no one should feel obligated to perform oral sex, you should neither expect it if you refuse to give!

  • fireweaver

    sem, i’m going to have to leave it for Shay to moderate, since i honestly don’t think this is the spot for human-rights-violations discussions (and yeah, as “female circumcision” is practiced in the parts of the world it’s done in, it qualifies). still saying, the way it’s done, not the same thing at all. love my current bf’s uncut bits just like i loved the previous one’s cut bits…and they were fine with their respective equipment, too.

    but, what i meant to say for the querier: cut, uncut; black, white, etc; whichever penis is attached to the guy who values your pleasure as much as his, whichever guy thinks you’re just hottt (yeah, with 3T’s and everything), THATs the penis you want to be working with.

  • Anonymous

    I find the implication that there is something embarrassing or shameful about an uncircumcised penis (“…he didn’t tell me he was uncircumcised…”) strange. Why should he have to warn her? Did she warn him (“Oh by the way honey, my vagina is unaltered…”)?

    Maybe I’m just a big fan of the uncut cock…

    Also, just by the way, female circumcision != FGM.

  • Shay

    Anon – yes, I’ve heard that too

    Exile – lol “groomed to his liking” yet guys can get so pissed when we suggest that they groom

    Gad – it should be written down somewhere… like on a stone plaque

    WL – me too – look carefully, she’s got his foreskin pulled down

    Sem and Fire – thanks. yeah, this isn’t the time/place where I’d like to get into discussions of female circumcision.

    MsI – If only all men were okay with delegating tasks like that to the more

    Anon2 – exactly!

    Fire – exactly, it doesn’t matter what it looks like or how much skin it has, the guys it’s attached to is even more important.

    Anon3 – I don’t know about warning potential partners about what your body parts look like; but maybe they had been discussing their appearance at length and he had left that part out. It is a pretty prominent feature when you’re going to describe a penis.

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