I’ve been out of action for awhile….a LONG while. Why is this so? Well, for awhile I was glad to have
it, having reached a point in my life where I need make some decisions about where it is going to go, and
such, but recently, I’ve been just too busy to really have a relationship, or even go out on a date with anyone, and I want to change that.
I’ll be honest here. I’ve been out of action long enough to find the idea of going right into a romantic
relationship a bit overwhelming right now, and what I want is a fuck buddy. I’ve had these arrangements at times in the past, but it was a long time ago, and it was always the woman who approached me about it.
So with all of that exposition, here is my question: How should I approach a woman with something like this without looking like a creep. There are a couple of possibilities, but might there be a website catering
to something like this that is reliable and positive and all of that?
A guy with no game”
Thank you so much for writing to me.
It can be pretty tough to get back in the saddle after you’ve been out for a while, so I do understand your concerns. ^_^
Despite the term, hooking up with someone for casual sex can be pretty awkward sometimes.
If you’re just looking for a one night stand, it’s not too hard to head out to a club or bar and hook up with someone who is similarly interested ( just make sure your partner is sober enough to actually consent). But sometimes this can be risky, since you’re taking a stranger home. This method really isn’t always as reliable and safe as a fuck friend can be.
But women (and men) don’t always want to advertise that they are interested in casual sex because they don’t want to come off as slutty or creepy (as you said). But a little joking around with female friends and colleagues might give you a chance to test the waters a little with people who you already know and could help you figure out who might actually be interested.
Websites might be another good idea, because people can be a little more honest about their sexual desires under the cover of anonymity that the Internet provides. BUT you’ll never REALLY know who you are hooking up with until you meet your potential lover in person and you could get yourself into a dangerous situation. Still, it might be worth your while to check out a few of those dating websites like Lavalife and AshleyMadison, etc.