Asking for an Open Relationship
“I am young only 18 and in a commited relationship. Recently I have found e few other guys that I desperately want to have sex with. My boyfriend is really closed minded about multiple partners. What would be a good strategy to get him to allow me to have only sex with other men. I would think it would be hot if I knew he was sleeping with other girls.
Please help, I really want him to see it my way.“
Having an open relationship is not something that everyone is emotionally equipped to do (even with guys, despite their reputation). It takes a certain kind of person to comfortably switch back and forth between having sex with a special friend and making love with their partner. Even the people that I know who are in poly or open relationships have had to struggle a lot with their own feelings as well as the feelings of their partner(s).
I’m not surprised that your boyfriend isn’t interested in having other men sleep with his girlfriend; like many people he probably worries that you might fall in love with one of these other guys or prefer them to him in bed. Your boyfriend may also be worrying already that you aren’t satisfied with him and that’s why you want to have sex with other men – this is something you will need to reassure him about.
If you really are interested in sleeping with multiple partners, you may have to form some sort of agreement with your boyfriend; perhaps you could suggest trying a threesome.
If, in the end, you can’t make a deal that works for both of you, try being single for a while – at least until you find a partner with your similar interest in open relationships.
Perhaps some of my readers who have successfully navigated this tricky “hey hunny let’s stay together but have sex with other people too” territory could offer some more insight. ^_^