Orgasms are a bit of a mystery to us — if you were to ask your friends, family members, classmates/ co-workers to describe what an orgasm is or what it feels like, the only unanimous answer you’d get is that they feel good, really fucking good!
When you ask people to describe orgasms more specifically, that’s where you start finding vast differences: some people experience orgasms as tidal waves crashing up through their bodies; others experience smaller surges; others describe their orgasms as bursts of light and energy, and still others feel their orgasms slowly creeping up their body before it floods their mind.
To make matters even more confusing, one person can experience many different orgasms depending on what they are doing — orgasms from oral sex can feel different from vaginal penetration orgasms, which can feel different from anal stimulation orgasms, which can feel different from masturbation orgasms!
Your orgasms can also vary depending on how you’re feeling; if you’re sick or have other things on your mind, your orgasms might not be as intense as when you’re well-rested and really aroused. My readers who masturbate regularly probably have noticed that their orgasms can vary from time to time, even if they’re stimulating themselves the exact same way every time.
Because orgasms are so fascinating, researchers in the Netherlands have been studying what happens in the brain during orgasm using PET scans. They’ve found that all kinds of interesting things happen when you hit that Big O; some parts of the brain (like the temporal lobe) shut down and other parts lights up. It’s a combination of these effects that makes you feel like you’re floating on a cloud of euphoria, or being crushed under a wave of ecstasy, or experiencing pulses of pleasure between your thighs.