This friend [the one we were talking about, not the one I was talking to] has, happily, just gotten into a great new relationship with a lovely girl and was telling me about how wonderful is it to have someone as physically and emotionally interested in him and he is in her.
You see, his first girlfriend ever, well she was….”Interesting”. I never actually met her, so I can’t really say anything about her personality, except that she sounds immature.
My friend was with this girl for a whole year and half during his late teens. Late teens – that’s when all the hormones seem to be running extra high and young lovers get into all kinds of trouble. (Personally, I was called to the Principal’s office once in my late teens for getting caught being groped by my boyfriend on school grounds… Luckily that was the only thing we got caught doing. ^_~)
My friend certainly was a healthy and normal young man, who was very interested in getting more physical with the girl he was in love with. But, he was (and is) a super sweety and didn’t want to push her into something she wasn’t ready for.
Waiting for sex seems like kind of a fad now, I think – I’ve been hearing about how teens today are trying harder than ever to save sex for marriage (or at until least their first year of university ^_~) and so they pretty much get into everything but: heavy petting, mutual masturbation, dry humping, oral, anal (?)….
But my poor friend didn’t get any of that. Even after a YEAR and a half, his girlfriend would only allow him to touch her breasts, UNDER her shirt (he wasn’t even allowed to see them!!).
To me this sounds unreasonable. Maybe I’m just a sex crazy whore….but after a YEAR and a half, you HAVE to throw the poor boy something a little more satisfying than a little hidden boob gropage!
So. This brings me back to my conversation (with a different friend) earlier. We were talking about how unfair the situation was for my friend and YET if he had broken up with her because she wouldn’t “put out” he would have been labeled a jerk and a perv.
As I’m sure many of the frustrated halves of couples out there can testify, physical intimacy is an important part of a healthy relationship! But, why is it that someone who breaks up with a person who refuses this physical (AND emotional) intimacy will be labeled negatively!?!