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Reader Question – A Tip for BJ Lockjaw

Hi Shay, I have a little conundrum here and I’ll get right to the point. I have a small mouth that tends to get tired whenever I’m giving my guy a blow job since hes well.. well endowed. After only the first few minutes the corners of my lips begin to get tired and my jaw begins to ache and hurt! I want to be able to enjoy giving him oral just as much as he does with me, but I don’t think I can do so when I have to stop in the middle of the act to flex my jaw. I’ve tried gummy mouth guards but.. that just made the problem worse, is there anything you know of that might help?

I feel your pain, I have a small mouth too.

I’ve talked a bit about how to make bowjobs better before, but I can also suggest that you try rotating a bit so that the widest part of his penis hits the widest part of your mouth – that might help a bit. In the end, though, you might want to consider doing what I do.

One of the secrets to giving a great blowjob is using a hand as well as your mouth (I’ve talked a bit about that HERE) and this is especially true when you have a small mouth; sliding your hand on the lower part of his shaft in sync with your mouth gives him more stimulation, and once things get intense he won’t be able to tell where your mouth ends and your hand begins!

But the really handy thing about this for the blowjob giver is that when your lips and jaw get sore and tired, you can slip your mouth off and keep working him with your hand while you recover – that way there’s virtually no interruption in service but you still have a chance to rest. I often end up just finishing him with my hands because it’s so much easier and more fun for me (because I can watch everything). Give it a try. ^_^

Good luck!


Comment from Violetta
Time November 9, 2007 at 1:11 am

I can not see the problem. Blow job is a mix iof different techniques. Don’t blow 20 m inutes. Play around his balls, eat his ass and bit in his skin.

My husband has much more problems when he licks me 20 minutes or more. He has always a stiff neck.

Comment from Gadfly
Time November 9, 2007 at 5:52 am

Hold the lower jawline level and figure out the direction the joint has locked. Use leverage to either pull it straight down parallel to the maxilla or first pull it out from the face, and then pull it down to disengage the locked joint gear mechanism before pulling it down in a parallel direction.

There will be some pain, but you must figure out how to differentiate that from terrible “further injury” pain.

Meh … I stitched up a gaping wound once with no local anesthetic. Don’t be a pussy ;-)

Comment from Shay
Time November 9, 2007 at 6:03 am

Violetta – exactly, mixing things up is a very good thing.

Gad – ugh! PLEASE, NO ONE DO THIS! Gad, you are just a nut!

Comment from Oral-less in Oregon
Time November 9, 2007 at 2:15 pm

So you’re saying that some women actually put their MOUTHS on a guy’s cock?
Wow . . . I wonder what that feels like . . .


Comment from "Squiffy"
Time November 9, 2007 at 9:19 pm

Great advice once again Shay. I would echo the point about using your hands in addition to your mouth. It also helps guys like me with a handjob fetish enjoy themselves even more.

Comment from exile
Time November 10, 2007 at 5:00 am

no interuption of service….

you’re the best shay!

Comment from Gadfly
Time November 13, 2007 at 3:01 am

True dat

But at least I wouldn’t be one of those poor girls on prom night in her beautiful dress at the emergency room with her jaw locked open, knowing that her entire family and her boyfriend’s family are currently looking at each other with embarrassed expressions in the waiting room. *chuckle*

And I have seen the procedure performed by an orthopedic surgeon. The trick (supposedly) is not allowing the jawbone to tilt at all as you apply forces in specific directions.

But yeah. For a normal, sane person. Don’t try this at home ;-)

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