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“Dear Shay, i’ve got a quick n short question for you
i’ve been in a relationship for more than a year now, and we’re, of course, sexually active since the begining of our relationship
we have sex 3 to 4 times a week, and since then, i’ve never masturbated: i don’t see the need, and the quality of the orgasm that i can get masturbating is not even close to the one that sex delivers. Of course, i’m not counting when she masturbates me)
the problem is this: since last week, first her and now me got the flu, and i think i’ll arrive at the 2 weeks without sex mark easiyly. Do i wait until we’re both healthy again? do i venture on masturbating on my own? can you give me any tips on either improving my mastubation, or ease the wait until i can do it again?“
O.o
As I’m sure many of my single readers (or those who are in long distance relationships) can attest, it’s not like 2 weeks without sex is going to kill you. In fact, it might make it that much sweeter when you two do feel well enough to have sex again. So I’m not sure why this is such a big deal.
But hey, maybe I’m jaded?
Personally, unless you’re really really sick, I don’t see why recovering from the flu should get in the way of having sex. You’re already bundled up in bed and, unless you’re vomiting/running a high fever/super achy, you two might enjoy a little tender sick-sex. It boosts your immune systems and the shot of endorphins is great when you’re not feeling so hot. Besides, if you’re too sick to have sex, you’re probably too sick to jerk off too.
But hey, maybe I’m just a crazy person and maybe your partner is too shy to let you see her when she’s sick and lounging around in her pajama pants and a hoodie.
I’m sure one or two guys might disagree with me, but in general, masturbating is not going to feel as good as when your partner either has sex with you or does it for you, it’s just not. I’m sure you’ve perfected your technique as best as you can over years of practice; so I’m not sure what I can suggest for “improving your masturbation”… um… use lube? Get a masturbation sleeve? Perhaps some of my other readers may have some other tips?
I hope this helps. :)
I never knew sex felt better than masturbation. I thought that since one masturbates so much, one knows what pleases him/her and, rhythm works, etc. better than anyone else.
You can guess I’ve never had any…
Well, now you have something to look forward to? :)
Two weeks, I guess can seem a lot when you’re that active. You’re kind of lucky in a way to compare two orgasms. Or the ability to say, yeah that orgasm was good. Some of us don’t even get strong ones, or nothing at all! xD
But the ones who do, will never be able to know what the people who don’t do, and vice versa, beggars cant be choosers and all that. So as Shay said, we all have something to look forward to!
Actually, not really. I’d rather not engage into college drama in order to have sex. I’d rather stay a virgin, thank you.
Those of us married people who only get it 1 time in a MONTH let alone 2-4 times a week have no pity for you. Take a break child! Having to skip sex for a little while because someone is feeling icky is hardly the end of the world.