Comments on: Reader Question – Taken over by a Daydream https://thesspot.org/2007/07/reader-question-taken-over-by-a-daydream/ Fri, 03 Dec 2010 16:08:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Shay https://thesspot.org/2007/07/reader-question-taken-over-by-a-daydream/comment-page-1/#comment-15757 Shay Tue, 07 Jul 2009 17:31:00 +0000 https://thesspot.org/?p=694#comment-15757 Darkstarr - assuming she WANTS to try being dominant, not everyone has to personality or desire for it. Assuming he even WANTS HER to be his dominatrix, his issues with his wife may be deeper than any of us realize. Darkstarr – assuming she WANTS to try being dominant, not everyone has to personality or desire for it. Assuming he even WANTS HER to be his dominatrix, his issues with his wife may be deeper than any of us realize.

]]> By: Darkstarr https://thesspot.org/2007/07/reader-question-taken-over-by-a-daydream/comment-page-1/#comment-15750 Darkstarr Tue, 07 Jul 2009 12:45:51 +0000 https://thesspot.org/?p=694#comment-15750 "am i beyond coming back into what is considered ‘normal’ by society?" Hmm... define "normal". One thing guys in this position could try is to get their SO's a copy of a good how-to book --the idea being to show her that (a) such fantasies are actually more common than one might think, (b) guys who are into being submissive aren't any less "manly" than those who aren't into it, and (c) that there's nothing to be afraid of in "consensual power exchange" (i.e. D&S, whether as a way to spice up a relationship or as a "24-7" lifestyle). In fact, if the topic is approached right, she might enjoy being the one who "wears the pants" in the relationship--not to mention that there's something really sexy about a strong, confident women (just ask all the guys who want to marry Xena: Warrior Princess!). “am i beyond coming back into what is considered ‘normal’ by society?”
Hmm… define “normal”. One thing guys in this position could try is to get their SO’s a copy of a good how-to book –the idea being to show her that (a) such fantasies are actually more common than one might think, (b) guys who are into being submissive aren’t any less “manly” than those who aren’t into it, and (c) that there’s nothing to be afraid of in “consensual power exchange” (i.e. D&S, whether as a way to spice up a relationship or as a “24-7″ lifestyle). In fact, if the topic is approached right, she might enjoy being the one who “wears the pants” in the relationship–not to mention that there’s something really sexy about a strong, confident women (just ask all the guys who want to marry Xena: Warrior Princess!).

]]> By: Loving Annie https://thesspot.org/2007/07/reader-question-taken-over-by-a-daydream/comment-page-1/#comment-6103 Loving Annie Tue, 24 Jul 2007 14:10:00 +0000 https://thesspot.org/?p=694#comment-6103 Shay said it very well. Shay said it very well.

]]> By: exile https://thesspot.org/2007/07/reader-question-taken-over-by-a-daydream/comment-page-1/#comment-6102 exile Tue, 24 Jul 2007 04:43:00 +0000 https://thesspot.org/?p=694#comment-6102 i say that your wife is your partner, tell her what your fantasy is. she might just be able to play the role you're looking for, sometimes people will surprise you.<br/><br/>you might even want to start looking into taking couples domination classes, or even going to domination clubs. (pay the dominatrix to instruct your wife) i say that your wife is your partner, tell her what your fantasy is. she might just be able to play the role you’re looking for, sometimes people will surprise you.

you might even want to start looking into taking couples domination classes, or even going to domination clubs. (pay the dominatrix to instruct your wife)

]]> By: Eve in Chains https://thesspot.org/2007/07/reader-question-taken-over-by-a-daydream/comment-page-1/#comment-6101 Eve in Chains Tue, 24 Jul 2007 02:32:00 +0000 https://thesspot.org/?p=694#comment-6101 Or both. Counseling <b>and</b> trying D/s. I would think in this instance, even if he feels he's not attracted to a Domme, he should act on it anyway. <br/><br/>Sometimes our fantasies are actually more than we can handle, whether we know it or not. Maybe working with a Domme in real life would allow him to realize that his need to be dominated can actually be met. I say "working" with because I'm thinking a good pro-Domme could help here. <br/><br/>Eve Or both. Counseling and trying D/s. I would think in this instance, even if he feels he’s not attracted to a Domme, he should act on it anyway.

Sometimes our fantasies are actually more than we can handle, whether we know it or not. Maybe working with a Domme in real life would allow him to realize that his need to be dominated can actually be met. I say “working” with because I’m thinking a good pro-Domme could help here.

Eve

]]> By: Gadfly https://thesspot.org/2007/07/reader-question-taken-over-by-a-daydream/comment-page-1/#comment-6100 Gadfly Tue, 24 Jul 2007 01:08:00 +0000 https://thesspot.org/?p=694#comment-6100 Hmmmm...<br/><br/>A harmless fetish becomes an emotional problem when it enters and adversely affects your everyday life.<br/><br/>I agree that, if he can, using the femdom/male submissive scene to scratch his itch -- go for it.<br/><br/>Otherwise, counseling. Hmmmm…

A harmless fetish becomes an emotional problem when it enters and adversely affects your everyday life.

I agree that, if he can, using the femdom/male submissive scene to scratch his itch — go for it.

Otherwise, counseling.

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