Comments on: Reader Question – Is Masturbation Sex? 2 Answers

By: Darkstarr

Darkstarr — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 13:06:39 +0000

My take on it is like this: you’re getting off, your partner’s getting off… sounds like sex to me! Considering how many nasty urban legends (my personal favorite is that guys who wank off too much grow fur in their palms) and horror stories (one guy I once knew claimed that if you play with your penis too much, it would fall off–and he was totally serious!) there are about “dancing with yourself”, I’d say that yeah, even if it’s just you and your hand, it’s still sex– otherwise, why would so many people be so hung up over it?

By: Old Bogus

Old Bogus — Wed, 23 May 2007 20:21:00 +0000

While my personal philosophy is something like, "Eatin' ain't cheatin'!", my wife and others don't agree. :(

One [marriage] counselor used this rule: [mutual] intimacy is intimacy, regardless of how it's done. At least this one allows porn!

My Baptist upbringing (which didn't take) taught that any sexual desire is sex with the desiree. Just like Carter's "lust in his heart".

The truths (and this has many, all of them true for the truth-holders) all lie somewhere in among these, I suspect.

Since I am pretty amoral, experience has taught me to respect the definition my SO subscribes to for a peaceful arrangement. :)

By: Dirty Filthy Princess

Dirty Filthy Princess — Wed, 23 May 2007 02:30:00 +0000

Like you guys said, either or. I like what exile said especially, “Don’t you know the saying “don’t be hate’n, be masturbate’n” Don’t fight, do something more constructive. ;-)

By: Mike Stewart

Mike Stewart — Tue, 22 May 2007 18:42:00 +0000

If it ain’t sex, it’s the next best thing! After all the end result is the same…SPLURT! for us guys, orgasms for the ladies. I’ve been jacking off since I was 12 and I’m 66 now…I sure hope all that fun stuff was sex….uh what was the question again? I think I’m having a senior moment…or maybe mama was right about me playing with my weenie too much!

By: Clever

Clever — Tue, 22 May 2007 14:11:00 +0000

Exile said it best when he said “Dont Hate, Masterbate” b/c in the end it doesnt matter, let’s just do it!!!

I’m starting a research project at my house to answer this age old question. If anyone would like to volunteer, please e-mail me, the more the merrier. You wont get paid, but with my unique research style, I believe the testing will be its own benefit.

By: figleaf

figleaf — Tue, 22 May 2007 06:00:00 +0000

Funny, I just put up a quote from the new sex-ed book by Heather Corrina (founder of Scarleteen.com) about masturbation.

"We hear a whole lot about who should be our first sex partner. We're often told it should be someone we love and who loves us back, someone committed to us long-term, perhaps even with someone we plan to spend the rest of our lives with.

And it should be. That person is YOU. you, all by yourself, have all of those qualities and abilities, more than any other person."

It's an excellent, excellent point.

So yeah, masturbation is sex. For sure.

figleaf

By: SJ

SJ — Tue, 22 May 2007 04:53:00 +0000

A rose by any other name …

By: exile

exile — Tue, 22 May 2007 04:38:00 +0000

i say, as long as you get to have it, call it what ever you want. hehehe

By: Gadfly

Gadfly — Tue, 22 May 2007 01:56:00 +0000

Well, I would think the very core of the meaning of sex is that it is, by necessity, going to involve more than one person.

Masturbation isn't even a "sex act" unless there's someone else watching you.

It's a great bar room philosophy topic, though. If a girl masturbates and video tapes it, and her boyfriend later receives the video tape and watches it while masturbating. Is that a "sex act"? And at what point did it change from single masturbation to a mutual sex act?

*chuckle*

By: adam b

adam b — Mon, 21 May 2007 23:17:00 +0000

(^_^)

YAY, for KEGELS too!!