“I’ve got some problems (I’m a guy by the way) and I was wondering if you could help me. I’m kind of a neat freak so [when I masturbate] I have to make sure I am in a position and area where my fluids won’t go anywhere except in my hand.
It really isn’t too fun masturbating when I have to be careful every two seconds about where my stuff is gonna go and I’m wondering if I’m just being too uptight about this.
For instance, I won’t even use a towel to clean up a mess. I have to use something disposable such as toilet paper. Also, I can’t tell you how many times I wash my hands afterwards. They get raw sometimes.
One fetish I’ve enjoyed is the water fetish. It’s always seemed fun to masturbate in the tub, but again, I am worried about having the stuff get on me and the objects in my house. For once I want to be able to live out my fantasies and know that my stuff isn’t all that dirty and that I don’t have to be such a freak about it. Could you help me out here?“
Many people can be picky about not wanting to make a mess with their fluids when they masturbate, so you’re not alone there. Most guys do try to find something sensible to do with their ejaculate; whether it’s washing it off their hands afterwards; catching it in an old t-shirt, sock, or sheets; or using something disposable like tissue.
But it sounds like you’re a little bit disgusted with your own body and that makes me sad. There’s nothing dirty or wrong with masturbating or the fluids that it can produce.
I do understand wanting to use tissues as disposable cleanup, it’s a lot easier. And esp if you don’t do your own laundry, I can see not wanting your mom to have to handle your special cum towel. But washing your hands until they are raw just isn’t right, you should be clean after one (maybe two) good sudsing up with soap – you don’t need to keep scrubbing and scrubbing until your hands are raw.
In any case, one thing you might enjoy trying is masturbating in the shower. This should allow you to enjoy your interest in water and it’s less messy than masturbating in the tub – your ejaculate will just be washed down the drain instead of floating around in the tub with you.
Grab some conditioner to use as lube and jerk off into the stream of water. When you are done, pick up your bodywash and give your self a quick full body sudsing. Your cum isn’t inherently dirty or anything, but you’ll want to clean up any splashes so that you don’t find any sticky spots on your legs when you get out.
Most importantly, try to relax and just enjoy it without worrying so much about the fluids that your body produces naturally.
Have Fun!
P.S. If you do find that you can’t stop obsessing about “making a dirty mess” when you masturbate, this could be a good issue to bring up with a counselor or therapist.
Just wanted to add my own two cents to your issue.
There is absolutely nothing disgusting about anything which results from masturbating, so just try and think of it less because it really is something that should be, well maybe not going so far as growing fond of your fuild, but at least happily accepted since the first seems unlikely.
Side note- A water fetish? Hmm, I’ve never really been able to ‘enjoy’ myself in water, but it is interesting that I tend to get aroused while in the shower, or swimming…I just thought it was interesting that you fantasized about it. Another side of the coin I guess.
It’s sort of like being suspended mid air when I swim, really. It’s euphoric and exciting. It’s a very unique feeling to be touched all over at once. (Enjoy that by the way.)Also for those of you that like asphyxiation, holding your breath and swimming under water gives you a rush. (Careful though)
Well, having had similar situations to this myself, I’d definitely recommend a discussion with a therapist – the first thing that this letter screams out at me is OCD. I’ve been there – the fear of contamination, scrubbing my hands until they bled. One thing you can try is to, er, jack off into something, and then just let it sit there for a while, and see if you can get to the point where it’s not as uncomfortable anymore, where it’s just one more thing rather than some source of contamination. Oh, and if you can get a hold of some dermatology-grade hand lotion, it can help a lot when you end up scrubbing your hands raw.
As the other Anon says..
OCD is definitely a possibility here.
We all have little mental quirks so don’t be afraid to seek help. Good on you for at least being open and seeking help but don’t stop here.. keep going. OCD can affect many aspects of your life that you don’t even know.
Another idea is to wear a condom when you masterbate. If it works for sex, it should work for solo time. Just a thought.
I second using a condom, as it feels kinda neat too! Use caution using conditioner though… I know it feels delightfully sinful, but once I got some in my urethra and the burning that ensued was NOT sexy at all.
ndo – you’re thinking soap, conditioner is fine.
Shay should have put her PS up front. There is some definite pathology going on here. There’s a fine line between “neat freak” and Obsessive-compulsive disorder, and i think this guy has crossed the line for sure.
There can be a problem with the opposite too, ya know. Flinging your cum where ever you want is kinda disgusting. Especially, stepping in other peoples cum.
But, the shower is an amazing place to masturbate. You can lock the door, sing while you jack-off(Just in case you’re scared of being caught), and everything is taken care of without using too many tissues. If you live with your parents, I think this is one of the best options you have open to you.