You see these two words flashed around when people start talking about sex and don’t want to use some of the more formal or more graphic terms out there. Sometimes they are used interchangeably and sometimes they are assigned specific meanings.
In my own writing, I never really liked to use the term “come” because… well, because it’s also a “regular” word, and it feels weird to me using it as a “sex word”. So I just use “cum”.
But I notice that some writers use these words more specifically, they’ll have “cum” mean ejaculate and “come” mean orgasm.
So, does this mean that only men can cum? Do they cum and come at the same time? Or does cum encompass come? What about women who can ejaculate – should we talk about them cumming too or do they still only come?
I know it’s just semantics, but what do you guys think? Which do you prefer? Especially the erotica writers in the audience, what do you use?