Comments on: Reader Question – Porn Addictions

By: Curvaceous Dee

Curvaceous Dee — Thu, 02 Feb 2006 06:51:00 +0000

Off topic – love the pic of Rei! (although the spelling of ‘EvangeRion’ cracked me up). Quite delicious.

xx Dee

By: -J.

-J. — Wed, 01 Feb 2006 05:32:00 +0000

$200 per month?!? That’s the real problem here. Perhaps he’s into something particularly perverse, and thus expensive…

And if not, he needs to discover file-sharing networks and BitTorrent. Quickly.

By: Sheen V

Sheen V — Tue, 31 Jan 2006 14:03:00 +0000

Speaking from personal experience, it could be a form of stress release for him to look at porn alone. I know it is for me. When I’m alone, I’m totally focused on me – the physical effects as well as the mental. When I’m with her, I’m more focused on her and our relationship. The purpose of two events, although related by porn and thier sexual nature, are caused by very different things, stress releif and porn. Some people exercise to relieve stress, or knit, or talk, or read, while others focus on something that gives them pleasure to relieve it.

I would be more worried about spending $200/month on porn. A magazine subscription is cheaper and there’s plenty of free stuff on the net.

By: :P fuzzbox

:P fuzzbox — Tue, 31 Jan 2006 12:12:00 +0000

If the lives of this couple together are not affected sexual or otherwise then this should not be a problem. The reader stated that their sexual relationship was fine and that they even watched porn together. I am thinking that it is just a habit and will work itself out in time. If it doesn't then that is the time to talk about it and if he is unwilling then maybe counseling would be in order.

Relationships are hard enough without manufacturing problems. If it isn't broke then don't try to fix it. Relationships are a work of compromise. I wish the best of luck to this reader.

As always, Shay, spot on advise.

By: Aragorn

Aragorn — Tue, 31 Jan 2006 11:26:00 +0000

Very interesting question and great answer. I like your list of ‘maybes’. Since they watch porn together, I think maybe the guilt factor is not that important. To me it sounds as if he has to give in to the desire to fantasize with other girls. Not a pleasant situation, but a good talk may indeed help. – A

By: Sabrina Morgan

Sabrina Morgan — Tue, 31 Jan 2006 06:31:00 +0000

I’d wonder what kind of porn he’s looking at- maybe he has a fetish and is afraid you’d think less of him if he shared it. It does sound like he might be embarrassed about it.

Or maybe it’s his hobby, what he does in his alone time/alone-with-the-computer time. The behavior is closer to compulsive than addictive really.