I was talking with my friend Mike the other night – he’s been reading my older blog entries and asked if erogenous zones are the same for everyone.
I said that they must be, in general, the same for most people. How else could we have lists of erogenous zones for men and women? Assuming a person is born healthy and hasn’t been injured, they should have the exact same nerve connections as every other healthy person – so stimulating an erogenous zone should have the same effect for all.
But, in reality, not every erogenous zone works the same for every person. Some people are more or less sensitive – so while one gets turned on from gentle neck licking, the other wants to be bitten. (There lots of things that can account for this, which I won’t bother getting into here)
Some people’s erogenous zones have been “ruined” through past experiences. If you had an ex that used to touch you a certain way, it could be weird when your next partner touches you there – so weird that a spot that is supposed to feel good when it is stimulated is now emotionally tainted.
So, if we were all born “perfect” and if nothing bad ever happened to us, I’m sure that we would all have exactly the same erogenous zones- but humans are fragile and we keep getting hurt, emotionally and physically, and this affects our reactions to touch and sex.
So I guess my answer to Mike’s question is: Yes, erogenous zones are supposed to be the same for everyone, but they aren’t always. And that’s where the fun part comes – exploring each other to find out which areas are the most sensitive and pleasurable.
Hmm, I’m big on the non obvious erongenous zones; the back of my knee, the inside of my wrists, my hair! It is fun discovering your partners zones and finding ones on your own body you were not aware of.
I agree with gigi. Some of the most arousing places on your body may not be the traditional erogenous zones.
Two of the most sensitive places on my body are the back of my neck and the palms of my hands. But it is not necessarily the place, it is also how those areas are touched and who is doing the touching.
The Teacher
different strokes for different folks. Plain and simple. And I think thats the best part of it all.
Gigi, Teacher – I think that many people almost prefer to be touched in those “less traditional” erogenous zones, which is why I chose to write about some of those in the older post that I hot linked in this one – check it out. ^_^
Waha – exactly. ^_^
If erogenous zones were dictated entirely by the number of nerve endings then doctors would be the world’s best lovers. Now I’m not saying that they aren’t (vainly attempts to dig self out of hole :)), but my EZs have changed over time. I think it’s a combination of factors, some physical others emotional.
The fun bit is exploring and finding new ones.
A former girlfriend of mine had the standard ones. However, due to her nervous system being super-charged, her scalp—a rather innocent and relaxing spot for most—sent shivers down her spine with only a brief massage. Needless to say I would take advantage of this when we were in situations where using other zones would be frowned upon. ^_^